Her doctor said 15 years ago she would die so she could go any day now.She won't be there for my wedding or any thing like that.How do I stop thinking about it?
2006-12-25 14:59:12 · 7 answers · asked by irish_lasie_95 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can relate 2 u. I'm assuming ur still a teenager, early 20's mabey? Anyway, i'm 15 almost 16, and my dad is very ill. He used 2 drink alot n do drugs. Now he's completely sober and clean 4 almost a year. He is only 40 n needs 2 b on an oxygen machine at night and he can't stand it so i'm guessing he doesn't use it. (i can't c my dad because my divorised parents don't have shared custody) The docter said if he doesn't use it it will take years off of his life n he smokes alot because of so much stress. He is on alot of pills. His kidneys are really bad, liver is bad, heart is sumwut weak, and lungs are very bad. I'm always thinking that he wont be around 2 c his grandchildren, to be at my wedding, or 4 me when we can finnally b around each other. It's been about 6 years since iv'e been able 2 b around my dad. We can only talk on the fone and my mom doesn't kno how seriousely messed up his body is. He almost died a few times from overdosing. I'm very worried about him especially n the future. So, ur not alone. Just be glad that u can c and b around her atleast 4 now because i can't even do that. tell her u luv her and thank her 4 all she has done 4 u. Don't ever leave her 2 feel alone or 2 sorry 4 her. Just make her proud and pray alot. If she stayed alive that long when she wasn't expected 2 than god is going 2 keep her around longer. 2 help cope with it just try 2 accept it and know that she will b n a great place 2 look down upon u when it's her time.
2006-12-25 15:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is sad that she will miss some significant events in your life, I think it's more important that you spend what time you have with her now & not worry about what may happen.
I assume your mother knows her condition. Perhaps you & she could work on projects like a family cook book, or even a wedding plan that you can look at when the time comes.
What wisdom would she like to share with her future grand children? Would she be willing to start a journal now & would you be willing to help her with it.
Do scrap books of things she loves or arts & crafts projects. Do something so that you and your children will have special things with which you can remember and honor this amazing and couragous woman.
Focus in the now. Accept what you can't change & change what you can. Seek counsel with a hospice or church. Give her all the love you can.
2006-12-25 15:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What illness does your mother have? She has lingered 15 years with this illness, chances are she might be around a little longer. Read up on the internet to better prepare yourself about what to expect.
Write a journal about all the wonderful things you love about your mother. Share it with her, and have her contribute her memories, if she is able.
Do what you can to comfort each other.
You are a caring and loving person to be concerned for your mother. Keep in mind that life is all about transitions. If you are doing what you can, then be relieved because that is the most you can do.
Cherish each day as it comes, and don't think about the future. She just might be around another 15 years!
2006-12-25 15:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor girl I can't even think of any words that can offer you the solace you are seeking, it sounds like you are very close to your mum and this is a frightening thing to try and deal with unfortunatly it isn't something you can stop thinking about, in regards to your mum missing your wedding the only suggestion I can offer is to move it up but this is going to cause you more stress I am sorry I cannot think of anything else to suggest to help.
2006-12-25 15:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by polynesiachick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you and your mom. Nothing you could do to stop thinking, long as you still around her. Looking at your bright side, after 15 years she is still alive today. Next time you see her, be happy and thinking that she still alive, and go on with your life.
2006-12-25 15:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could have gone any of the days for fifteen years...so could you...just live one day at a time and enjoy that day and the time with your mother...we shouldn't need a doctor to tell us we could go any day...
2006-12-25 15:02:55 · answer #6 · answered by jdoug_sellers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think there is anything you can do to forget but you can sometimes... hang out with friends and have fun with your closests family members...
2006-12-25 15:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by Promise 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋