i recently realised that i am bi, i do feel that i like girls more than i like guys (i am a girl by the way!) but i havent told anybody except for this girl that i met at a bar and she is gay, so we have kind of started dating....and she took me to a gay bar and then my friend rang me and i told her to come along and she did and now she thinks that i am gay but i have told her im not, im 19 and this girl is almost 21, she says that she really likes me and i have NEVER felt like this about anybody else before, but all my friends dont like her because i have been hanging out with her more than them and they all think im gay...do you think i should...tell my friends im gay/bi and that i really like this girl OR stop seeing this girl since i dont know her that long, its ruining my friendships and also i feel that im liking her a lot more than she is liking me, she also lives quite far away from me.......any suggestions??
2006-12-25 14:41:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, right off, if your friends don't accept you as you are (straight, bi or gay) then they're really not your friends...
That said, if you like her I don't see any harm in dating her... But since you mention that you like her more than she likes you, you need to be careful... she just may be out because she thinks your hot, and wants to do you... or she may be trying to switch you orientation as a sort of conquest...
I've had a relatively large number of gay and bi friends (oddly the girls are usually bi, the guys either gay or straight...) and they've mentioned that amongst so gay groups, you can sort of earn points by turning people...
Personally I think our sexuality is mostly genetic - so my guess is that if you like boys and girls.... you're bi - which frankly is really cool for woman, cuz you can pretty much get anyone you want...
Anyway - you need to do what's right for you, not whats right for your friends. If they can't except it, then that's their problem no yours.
Just be careful.
-dh
2006-12-25 14:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as the saying usually goes is Bro's before Hoe's but your chase is just a little different. If you really like the girl then try and make it work. If you cant choose between her and your friends that means you truely like her and thats something that might come back your way so take the chance as it is given. Dont think im trying to tell you to be gay because im not its your choice im straight but dont have problems with those that aint. But dont forget true friends are hard to come across and if they are your tue friends they wouldnt care what you do as long as your happy. That is the only thing that should matter. Hope this helps.
2006-12-25 22:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what your heart tells you.
The realization that you are bi/gay is a difficult one for you, and for your friends. If they are true friends, once they get over the shock, they will be back.
I wish you all the luck in the world, as this has to be a strange and confusing time for you.
2006-12-25 22:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by maamu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friends will get over it. They would be jealous of any guy too, but in a different way! Anyone who takes the time of a friend is not always welcomed, even if they are happy for their friend! After all, "we" want to have a good time with you too!
So, please do tell them your bisexual! I know to a lot of people this sounds unimportant, but it sounds important to you, so its important! It identifies you, and you can "own it." Do so.
Um, breaking up with someone "because you haven't known them long?" I'm afraid your stuck with dating childhood friends and relatives then, lol! Keep dating her!
2006-12-25 23:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would focus more on why my friends aren't supporting me and if they really are my friends than whether you should stop seeing this other girl. I applaud those who are not afraid to do as they feel. If your friends don't support you then perhaps its time to seek out new friends that are more openminded and supportive. It is, afterall, your life.
2006-12-25 22:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by doogie2man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends really care,they should respect your choices.As for the girl make sure you know where the relationship is headed before you invest too much.
Good Luck.
2006-12-25 22:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what your heart tells you to do. If you have feelings for this girl than go for it. You will find out who your true friends are by being yourself. Gone through it myself. Just be true to yourself always!
2006-12-25 22:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly dear, at this age, you wouldn't have the certainty of your sexual orientation. You're just enjoying life by trying new and diferent things. You don't have to tell/explain anything to your friends. If they ask, just tell them that you just feel like having a bit of an adventure and that's it.
Have "safe""fun"
2006-12-25 22:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by Zenithia Victora 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it!!! Doesn't hurt to experiment. See if you really do like it.
Your friends will get over it if they are really your friends. My wife didn't think she would like it at first.
2006-12-25 23:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by willie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to find out what is more inportent to u, on both sides they come and go ezy, its not up to your friends what you want and its not up to your girlfriend what u want so the riel Q. is who do you want to stay in your life longer
2006-12-25 22:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by doom1_us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋