I'm a senior in high school and for most of my time in school I've wanted to be friends with this one group in particular but I always felt held back. Mianly because I felt obligated to be friends with people who kind of attached to me and wouldn't really have any friends if it weren't for me. But anyway they all seem to have moved away or lost interest in me so at the end of last year I decided that the next year I would not worry about it so much, that I would try not to feel guilty because I had been held back for so many years and figured its senior year I should try to enjoy it as much as I can and make up for lost time. But anyway, I'm so shy that even though they seemed to be very friendly and seemed to give me an opening to be friends with them, I couldn't do it and nothing ever came of it. I tried getting a myspace to talk with them over the internet to show that I wanted to open up a little and stay in touch but i couldn't take the stress and got rid of it, I think upsetting them a little in the process, they were happy I got one. I recently got it back, but the stress is just killing me again and I think I'm getting rid of it again soon. Anyway, the last few months nothing really happened with this group A, but then another girl i like from group B worked on a project with me and one day asked me to sit at lunch with them for one day. I did for the one day but didn't want to look like I had chosen one group over the other because group A has been equally inviting over the years, so I just stopped going to lunch. This has complicated things so much and I just feel trapped. It's made my depression a lot worse, and lately, where I used to try to mingle in groups, I just sit by myself and don't talk, and I'm probably ruining my chances of having friends, but it's gotten to the point where I can't honestly say I care if I'm friends with them sometimes, but other times it just kills me, like when I see pictures of them together and think of what I could've had it makes me so depressed. I'm just getting ready to give up on the whole thing, since I only have a few months to go. Do you think I should do that?
2006-12-25 13:24:47 · 6 answers · asked by leena 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
first of all you can have more then one group of friends! keep your myspace, its worth it! take turns hanging out with the different groups, or try to bring them together! dont put yourself in the middle, cause then you might get call a poser or other mean names, if they make you decide who to hang out with, who makes you the happiest! they would be the greater friends!
2006-12-25 13:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you were a Senior in H.S. ok the truth of the matter is this in 6 months none of this will matter. Once you graduate you will not stay in touch you probably will not hang out anymore and you will make new friends. H.S. is very difficult but don't let it get to you. You are young and have a whole life ahead of you seriously. Stressing about group A or group B is crazy. Because Group C or D could come into play at anytime. Don't limited yourself.
2006-12-25 21:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by iseemen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you need to chill out. You are ruining your senior year. Take things as they come. If you have an opportunity to be with anyone you find value in, go ahead and spend time with them. What does it matter what group they are in? Thinking this way is very, very shallow. Why is My Space causing you stress? Are you that worried about how you are coming across? Where is your love for you and who you are, no matter what others think? Spend some time looking in the mirror and getting to know yourself. Stop worrying so much about groups and get to know people as individuals. You need to get beyond this before you leave home. Get happy with yourself. Like people for people and move on! Also, be careful what you put on My Space, colleges check these boards out when thinking about admitting someone and they aren't sure of the person.
2006-12-25 21:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by graff_monster@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, this is HS. If its causing you so much stress to be friends with this particlular group, then is it really worth it?? Be freinds with who makes you feel comfortable and you can have fun with, even if its just one person. You can create a better friendship with one person rather than a group that has already formed friendships inside. Don't get depressed over this... this is HS, a lot of times you won't talk to these people again. My true friends are people I have met since high school, if you don't make friends your senior year, don't worry you are not doomed.
2006-12-25 21:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel trapped then you probably are. Pick from the mass of ''friends'' and select a few true friends to share yourself with. Don't forget, you're precious and they should be honored by your friendship!
2006-12-25 21:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only God knows!but i will pray for you!
2006-12-25 21:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by godelectedme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋