I asked the following and most (who had no similar experence) said that I am selfish to want to leave. These are the same people who would invite him and his whooore to dinner and say that thay can't "judge" him. I am going to give him the children and move out of the country. Isn't leaving better than something else extreme?
I hate having contact with him. He left me for another woman in the neighborhood who is a known unpleasant whoore and then is very snippy about even talking about the children. He is coldhearted. Whenever I decide, after therapy, to just have a friendly relationship with him for the sake of dealing with the children, he turns colder and nastier as if he can't stand it when I am nice. He seems to get off on making me angry. Rather than put the children through this, I am contemplating just giving him the kids & moving to Spain. I can easily get a job there. Isn't that better fo the children? He makes me crazy. HE LEFT THE KIDS. Better no mother than a nutty one.
2006-12-25 12:48:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for more answers that prove my premise. Maybe I will return to graduate school and get another Ph.D. studying why women hate women. wow!
2006-12-25 13:00:04 · update #1
What you are saying is he chose to mess around didn't care about the kids one way or the other, well I had enough and he can have the kids. I heard it said and seen it done already. Are you nutty because he says so? Remember he left you so he's about to say anything. This is something that you have to do on your own. Do you think that he will be cold hearted to the kids? Still the decision is up to you. HE LEFT THE KIDS SO NOW HE CAN HAVE THEM!
A lot of things is always left up to the mother and I know it can be tough, but you have to hang in there. I detect a lot of anger - do yourself a favor and calm down so you can think things through rationally. Still I won't tell you what to do - it is not right at this point. I wish you the best of luck.
It does not matter at this point what I would do, that is neither here nor there, what matters now is you.
2006-12-25 15:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably receiving (some) answers with a nasty tone to them or hearing people sound baffled because you didn't really provided enough detail. You say your husband "left the kids", the woman he took off with apparently doesn't like children, and all attemps you've made to have a friendly relationship with your ex (for the kids sake) have failed. That all makes sense. What doesn't sense (as others have said) is why you would want to leave the country, start a new life in Spain, but leave your children behind. Do you fear that you would be in legal trouble if you were to just leave with them? What I'm saying is, maybe you have a perfectly good explanation as to why you're contemplating leaving them behind. If so, you should add that to your details, so people can understand where you're coming from and give you better answers.
2006-12-25 13:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well l guess it's your choice what you do but there is no way in hell that l would be leaving my children with a man that would probably put his scummy hoare's need ahead of his own children's. If you want to move away that's fine but think of your kids needs as well. I personally think your children would be better off with a good mum, which is what you would be if you were to get away from this moron who knows how to push your buttons and upset you. Good luck
2006-12-25 13:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to think about what you are saying, listen to what you are saying. Of course you are hurt and angry. However, you said she the other women is mean to the children. You should take your children with you and begin another life and if Spain is where you need to do it then so be it. Children need their mothers and you will most probably feel better if you can get away from his stupid selfish, self- centered behind. I wish you the best, I will keep you in my prayers. Hang in there the pain will lessen with time. And keep in mind that we all reap what we sow, he will get his in due time. And so will she, he will be cheating on her just as he did with her on you. God bless****
2006-12-25 12:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOt give up your children. You could never repair the harm that you would do to your children it you did that. Let him go on and be with this filthy woman and just do your best to ignore how he acts towards you. You're right he probaly can't stand that you are trying to be nice to him, but you are definetely being the more mature person. Good for you. Move on and find someone who will REALLY love you AND your children.
2006-12-25 12:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by sarabear318 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 08:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never leave your kids behind..Do you hate your children too! if so then get the hell out..you have no buisness being a mother..YOU need to put ur own issue aside but dont make the kids suffer, but only stay if you love them..
2006-12-25 12:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by machele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you leave your children?! i just cannot ever fathom why people do this. in the long run you would be hurting your children just because you and your hubby want to act like children. try getting sole custody before leaving them. my hubby's mom left him and his 3 brothers and sister when they were small just to get away from their father. they all HATE their mom now and love the dad.
2006-12-25 12:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really feel bad for the kids. Nobody seems to be thinking of them. YOU want to chuck them out the door as bad as HE does. And you call HER a whore! Look at you! You should be hung right next to him, stupid*ss!
2006-12-25 12:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell would u want to leave yor kids with a ******** and a whore.They are better of wif u and nothing to do with him or his hooker
2006-12-25 12:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by jafsil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋