Im 43 and I feel 60 because I work, clean, eat and sleep?

Question

I have nothing to look foward to. My huband works very hard, long days. The kids have their own life and now Im bored. I love my husband, but on the weekends hes sleep by 9:00. I tell him I want to go to a movie or something, but hes always to tired. Dont tell me go without him becasue its him i want to do something with. I want something to look foward to. It would be nice to spice things up by feeling like we are on a date either.

Answer 1

Don't ask.. simply purchase tickets ahead of time for some show or movie etc. Or make reservations for dinner or a short trip. Give him notice well in advance. Sometimes if it's on the schedule they have time to prepare for it. Also, when forced to do something we often find that it was so much fun that we'd like to do it again.

Answer 2

You are bored. Both of you are bored.
The reason is; you are not getting enough of the RIGHT daily exercises.

You BOTH need aerobics daily, stretching daily, and weightlifting every other day. Mon-Wed-Fri.

Let's look at my life, and the life my wife has. We BOTH get up at 3:30 AM. At 4:30 AM, we get our son up. At 5:30 AM we both DRIVE 1-1/2 hours to our jobs. Our son goes to a private school near our jobs. So I take him to another parent's house where she drives him, and her son to the school. We BOTH work 12 hours at our jobs. Another 1-1/2-3 hour drive home, depending upon the traffic, and accidents, etc. We both get home, dinner, homework, etc. and go to bed at 11:30 every night. So we both know tired!!

So how do we function on 5 hours of sleep a night? Exercise. When we wake up, we do The Step, by our bed, 5-15 minutes. And again at night, before we go to bed 5-15 minutes.

At work, we get a break every 2 hours. The break is about 5 minutes. So we do aerobics and stretching during our breaks. Usually in the bathroom so we avoid an audience. During lunch, we keep a weightlifting set to work out. We also eat 5 small meals a day.

On Saturday, we do the groceries, other shopping. Sunday we get up at 9 AM, our gift to ourselves, and then go to the movies around 11-12 AM. Our son goes with us.

Once every 3 months, we take a 2-day mini vacation where we drive to some place nice, arrive early, stay the day, check into a hotel at night, leave the next morning, and come back home that after noon after spending one more day at the place we are staying at. Usually a theme park in Orlando or Tampa.

Life can be interesting, exciting. You just need a plan both of you can do together. And it takes practice and work.

We have been married for 30 years. Age 51.

Answer 3

That is the same thing that was going on in our home. I worked 12 hr days, with no time for lunch and saturdays. Was always tired. Then my wife began to pray that my job would change and it did and we have more time together. I still work for the same company and I have more freedom. We really couldnt see how it could work but leave it to God to work out the details. He is a Good God. WE have been married for 32 yrs

Answer 4

I'm 43 too and I know how you feel. I'm not married, but sometimes I feel ancient myself. I think you should sit down with your hubby and tell him how you feel. Maybe you two can compromise and take one or two nights a month and make them "date" nights. Dinner and a movie.... or dinner and see a local band or something.

Talk to him. Clearly you still love him, since you don't want to go out alone, which is wonderful. Make sure you tell him that when you talk to him. He should appreciate the fact that you want to be with him.

I think if you tell him how you feel and suggest the date nights, he'll agree and all will be well. Take your time and don't get too upset about it. (I know, easier said than done, but try).

Good luck, and Merry Christmas!

Answer 5

Maybe instead of doing all of that crap all day you should go out and make something of your life.Examples- go out to the clubs, go to disney world, spend time with your friends and kids(if you got some).Don't just stay in the house and do nothing that's why you feel like your that age. Don't wait around for your husband, cause you know when he comes home he goes right to sleep.So go out and have some fun in your life.

Answer 6

He's cheating on you...he's got you where you can't see it. TOO busy to see the forest for the trees. Get a life for yourself.....you have to think if he dies what will you do then, just sit and do nothing? Poor thing your life is wrapped up around one man that really couldn't give a damn. GET YOUR OWN IDENTITY!!!!! Sounds like you are married to a Latino male they tend to act that way.

Answer 7

I would try to communicate this to him. Take the initiative to plan something for the 2 of you, so he'll be less likely to quit, i.e. buy tickets in advance and keep it a surprise? I'm in my 20s (married 4 children) and I can't do nights, they are so difficult. Do lunches instead or afternoon movies. Other than that, try to fill your needs on your own, try to achieve fullness through oneself, don't rely on someone else to accomplish your happiness.

Answer 8

I'm 32 and feel somewhat like you. My husband always works and when he isn't working he is BSing with the guys. Not alot of time for me. I've tried talking to my husband and he just doesn't "hear" what I'm saying, maybe yours will "hear" you if you are truthful about your feelings.

Answer 9

Go without him. It doesn't matter if it's not what you want to hear, it's reality. You need to get real. Your life sucks because you're allowing it to SUCK!!! It's your fault, not your husbands. If you wanna have some fun and something to look forward to, go ahead and live. If you're not willing to do that, stop bugging people with ridiculous statements like the one above.

Answer 10

tell him this. tell him that you want to be able to spend more time with him and see if there is some way that you can work out an arrangement. see if one night a week he can take an early nap and then get up to go to a movie with you.