im in a serious relationship and the man im in it with is technically still married and he has 4 kids the youngest is 8...she lives with us...his wife is the bitchest of all bitches and he always say that he wants to marry me but he is trying to get every thing together .... 9i also have a 4 month old child by him???? im sick of being in this relationship....should i leave or stay and be miserable?????
2006-12-25 12:35:40 · 11 answers · asked by ??? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should have never gotten into it. There are plenty of men who are not still legally married, or have never been. I can't understand what you expected from it to start with. Unless you didn't know he was still married. If you live like that it is because you want to. I can only imagine the issues that come from the fact that he is still married and has no court arranged visitation. I bet Christmas was hell.
2006-12-25 13:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by tim b 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only person who can decide what to do is YOU !! You know that living with a married man is wrong. Don't you think that he will also cheat on you ?? He is doing it now to his wife and you were silly enough to have a baby to him. What makes you think that he will ever divorce his wife. You are playing with fire as far as l am concerned. If l was you l would definately leave his lying, cheating butt behind and make a new life for yourself and your baby. You have already done enough damage in one relationship, move on and get your own man. He is not yours to keep and never will be truely yours !! As far as getting his life together, that only means that he is probably using you as he wants to keep you hanging just incase his wife rejects him. People who cheat really disgust me.
2006-12-25 13:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to live with a man who is still married to another woman?The man's wife is also living with you?It doesn't sound right to me.Get out now before it's too late.The man is not worth it and you also have a baby. Get out while you can.It's not easy being miserable and you can do better than being with a married man.Good Luck.
2006-12-25 13:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are nuts. He is walking all over you. Why would you have his baby too? File for child support or something than move out. He is lieing to you and will never get a divorce and marry you. This is gross. You people make me sick.
2006-12-25 13:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to take the high road and give him an umtimatum. he deivorces the wife and makes a life with you and the baby or he leaves. You cannot allow him to have his cake and eat it too.
2006-12-25 14:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are miserable, you already answered your own question. You did not write exactly what your problem is; however, it seems just by being with someone who did not officially end his previous relationship and already has a kid with you...mostlikely he is too overwhelmed with his own feelings. You should tell him to straighten out his affairs, you yours, and in time you will see if there is a future for y'all!
2006-12-25 13:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yuu need to get out of the situation. He is technically is married and probably will remain that way.
You and your child deserve better.
2006-12-25 14:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
eww - are you sure she's the b*tchest of all b*tches? 'cause technically you and your guy aren't looking too cool in this scenario. Men will say anything to keep you even if they don't really want to marry you...If you think you are miserble now, wait til you marry him and he cheats on you...
2006-12-25 13:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont forget your living in adultry and that is nothing more than an unpaid hooker. Leave before it goes any farther
2006-12-25 12:59:27 · answer #9 · answered by white dove 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is an old saying, " If the milk is free... why buy the cow."
2006-12-25 14:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by RotcehZepol 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋