When I was about 25 years old I took over the holiday cooking, Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas for my parents and in laws. Now my children are in their 20's and mom is still the one doing all the dinners. Do you think it would be rude of me to say "Ok kids, thats it, Easter is yours, I have done it for 27 years, I think it is about time to pass it on to the younger ones" Would it be cruel of me about 3 weeks before Easter to say, I don't know what your having for Easter because I am not doing it?
2006-12-25 12:34:29 · 10 answers · asked by vivib 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
i think i would tell the kids that I would like for them to take over Easter, or tell them you would like each of them to bring a dish or two,and we would all put the food togeather,or make a planned meal and have each one bring something.The older ones should be free not to have toolike your parents and in laws....i would tell them about 3 weeks ahead of time.just explain to them that its their turn..No its not rude...My Mom did it for years and then we took it from her so she could just enjoy,she always brought something but was not asked ,she did it on her own....Its about time you get another plan togeather so you can get some help...
2006-12-25 12:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by slickcut 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it that way....
I think that would really be an ignorant way.
How bout something like....
"You know, Sweetie....having dinner this year for everyone really beat me up. Do you think maybe next year we can have it at your house? I'd still love to help out but I'm at the age where it really wipes me out."
I don't know how old you are...but I'm 52 and I still love
being the 'tradition' each holiday that brings my family together. Although....my kids automatically come over early and help me set up while I'm doing the cooking.
2006-12-25 12:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by COOKIE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like the children should cook, they should. Let them get into the habit of cooking, and soon they will get into the habit, for later times. They need to start cooking things sooner or later, or else they will eat fast food for the rest of their lives. Give them the challenge to cook a holiday meal. I also recommend you buy a cookbook for them, so they can cook more often.
2006-12-28 01:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by yphclubs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably ask them nicely. Try to plan something with them and plan it so they have it at their place. Don't force it on them, but if they decide they can't do it then tell them at a different time you won't be having the meal at your home.
Hopefully they'll get the hint and pick it up. Be sure to think about hte details (i.e. home size, qty of people, etc) This may be why they didn't want it at their home.
Anyway, good luck . . .
2006-12-25 12:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not rude to tell your children 3 weeks ahead of time.But, when you do they probably say that u should of told them ahead of time.Any ways u feel that u want your kids to take on responsibilities 4 their selves.I'm only 13 and I do a lot 4 my mother.You want to be able to depend on your children the same way they depended on you.That they should want to do things for the family.
2006-12-27 09:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lil Buddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I would do "one" more Easter, THEN announce it to the kids that its your last one...
Simply explain that you did it for your Mom, and she did it for her mom and its being passed along as a tradition from you to them.
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-12-25 12:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by x 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the best way is bring it up casually and say wouldn't it be fun if you did the dinner next year but make sure that you are around for phone calls for help
2006-12-25 12:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by M JOHNS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pop over to McDonalds and buy a few hamburgers for your family.
Just to show that you mean it.
But DON’T DO it at Easter. Give them a fair warning.
You are welcome!
2006-12-25 12:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by saehli 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think exactly what you said, is appropriate, so long as you smile. And you don't need to give them a year of advance notice
2006-12-25 12:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, it wouldn't be rude and three weeks is enough time.
2006-12-25 13:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋