How do you forget about someone you care about? Never thought I would care so much, I waste so much time thinking about him. I know he truly cares, but I can't change that about him.....
2006-12-25 12:22:03 · 5 answers · asked by joh3490 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As a college student, your question is kind of vague. You care for him yet you can't change "what" about him? You probably never will foget about him entirely, but you must continue on with your life with or without him. If it was meant to be, then maybe one day you two will be together.
2006-12-25 12:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will forget with time... And in few years you'll be thinking like why I was acting that way? Just because someone is nice to you it doesn't mean that his in love with you. So just let it go and take a time off from that situation. Stop seeing him so much and focus on something else.
2006-12-25 20:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by krucha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a ***** ain't it? But it happens to everyone sooner or later. Just pick up and move on, if he can't fill your needs, that's all you can do. Trust me, you may think there's no one else that GOOD enough for you, but your way off. There are tons of great guys equally great, just put yourself out there to meet them. Join the colleges Gay and Lesbian group and go to their meetings. Who knows, when he hears your doing this, he may find out he's missing a good thing, and then again, he just might wish you well, either way, you'll be okay!
2006-12-25 21:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friendship is good because it can transent time and problems. Love sometimes last for a while and then the spark dies.
I would rather have a live long friend than a lover.
2006-12-25 20:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by Wicked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line for me Joh is we never stop hurting for people we love but can't be with. But it's not so bad really. It is a sweet sort of pain in it's way and I believe love is eternal, always best when cherished, and that even with those we love whom we can be with we often experience a distance in our relationship that can leave room for that sweet sort of pain that arises from loving someone who is innaccessible to us.
I recommend that you love your friend in your heart whenever you think of them and be joyful to have found someone you love so dearly and honor that love by moving on with your life and making the very best of your life that you can.
I don't doubt your friend loves you too Joh, even if they are somewhat uncomfortable with the sort of relationship you wish you might have with them. Most often the very best we can do in a situation like this is to carry on and make ourselves happy with our lives and find new people to love until we find that special person we might want to carry on a lifetime with who feels the same with us.
You may feel hurt but its best to put the hurt aside because dwelling in the pain can ruin your life. You should want your life to be as joyful and loving as possible and dwelling on things we cannot have spoils that. Above all you should not want to hurt your friend in any way and they would be hurt if they felt guilty about having hurt you even if they didn't mean to hurt you. So please let yourself heal from this pain and move on.
You are young enough that there will likely be many many people you will love before you settle down, and to waste your time now with regrets and impossible longings means you will miss out on new loves and those sweet people may miss out on you too. So carry on with chin up, heart open and merry eyes ready to meet the next love of your life. Honor your friend by continuing your adventure in life with as much joy and love as you can.
2006-12-25 20:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by greg.gourdian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋