I am so disappointed, pissed, and upset about my friend of 10 years since h.s. I would never have expected that she is a homewrecker. She fell for a guy and he was in a relationship with his gf of 8 years. My friend was the sole cause of their breakup. That guy broke up with his gf of 8 years just to be with my friend. My friend justifies by saying "Is it wrong to be happy?". I think it is so wrong, and I won't accept her bf. Am I wrong to feel this way? I don't want to talk to her for awhile because she disappoint me. If you were in my shoe - what would you do?
I hope you guys will respond to me.
2006-12-25 12:10:30 · 10 answers · asked by san jer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It was very bad that she did that, but it could have been worse. Her boyfriend could have been married. Many people will judge you by the company you keep, so ask yourself this: Do you care about your friend? Does your friend care about you? If it's "yes" to both, you have to try to salvage your friendship. If you can't, at least you tried.
2006-12-25 12:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by hottie_spaniard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. ya know i was in a very similar situation. although i knew my friend for only a year my ex hubby had been a cheater. she made choices to be out with a guy at like 3-4 am while her 3 children were sleeping. she claims that because i was her friend i shouldnt judge her. sadly i still hear things about the situation cuz my bf chooses to still talk to her. becuz of her choice, her oldest child and my oldest daughter to play (they r 7-8 years old) and my daughter asks "why". i agree with step all the way. I know she has been a friend so long but obviously she hasnt thought everything thru :(
2006-12-25 12:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you shouldn't stop talking to your friend, I don't agree with her being a homewrecker but if right now she doesn't see that this guy is no good, she will. If he did that to his girl of 8 years what makes you think he won't do it to her. Just be there for your friend, that doesn't mean you have to hang out with her jerk boyfriend, but eventually she is going to see that she made a mistake and she is going to need a friend to talk to. This guy will probably do the same thing to her that he did to his girlfriend.
2006-12-25 12:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by Chulis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a good point, but at least he wasnt married!! In cases which a man or woman is married and they just fall for someone else, id definately call that a homewrecker and not accept it if it were my friend.
However, even though this guy was in a relationship for a long time, its not like your friend forced him to leave his girlfriend. Maybe they really did just fall in love... at least he broke up with his gf instead of just cheating on her!! Give yourself a little time to adjust and explain this to your friend, but remember, she is your friend of 10 years and you wont always agree with everything eachother does. Thats no reason to hurt a friendship!! Try to support her in her decision, you dont have to like it; just make it clear you need time to adjust to having him around.
2006-12-25 12:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by Christines256 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 15:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know you are not wronge for feeling the way you do i would be the same way be cause it happent to one who says it can not happen to an other not to say that you should break off the friendship but just be carful and let your friend know how you feel be open and honest.
2006-12-25 12:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by Murders Princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy wasn't married. He decided he wanted to move on to another relationship. I don't think you should hold it against your friend and her boyfriend.
That said, yes it sucks when someone purposely breaks up a relationship to get what they want. But if he was happy with the one he was with, she wouldn't have been able to take him out of it. I understand you see what she did as wrong, but they are adults and they have found each other and are happy together. I wouldn't be too harsh on them.
2006-12-25 12:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Were they married?if not its fair game.Marriage is a home thats wrecked.
2006-12-25 21:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by knowlegeSeeker 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
tell her that she's wrong and what goes around comes around.
2006-12-25 12:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you're judged by the friends you keep....
2006-12-25 12:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋