how do u get over divorce it hurts bad?

Answer 1

It is a process....and it does hurt bad, and only those who have experienced will know the pain. But it gets easier with time. Try to fill your time by trying new things, and getting together with friends. Keeping busy is one of the best things to do.

Answer 2

The only way to do it is tough it out and learn from the experience.Its hard but with time it does get better.Don't rush into any relationship with anyone just to feel better because you will only cause more pain and confusion in the long run.Give yourself a couple of years and get to know YOU again cause after a divorce you will change quite allot inside.Your views may change in what you want in a person also set some goals to work to.Goals will keep you busy and help restore some of your lost
pride.Show yourself that you can do these things alone and you will feel much better.This will also show your ex that you are much stronger than they give you credit for.Be proud.
Give your self a pat on the back,you have made it this far,good for you.MERRY CHRISTMAS

Answer 3

u don't get over it right away, it is painful, during the process, it doesn't hurt to get into a group that helps people, doesn't hurt to get some spiritual therapy either. yes divorce hurts, because we mourn for the life we thought we had, we fear the future, as the person we counted on the most is no longer there. alot of the hurt is because we are in this denial thing, where we think he will just come walsing back to us, but that seldom happens either. it does a number on our own self worth, and its as if our world has been pulled from under us. the pain is something we have to face, and just allow, so we can move on, we must face the reality, and facts, and expect no more from him, not even an apology. hurts especially bad if we have been kicked to the curb over another woman, the worst. takes time, and sometimes as in my case distance. been three years on Christmas day, and i still have my moments where i grieve still to this day. so it's not easy, the pain does diminish but not as quick as we would like it, because basically it is just like a death, the death of a life as we knew it, a life we thought would last forever, but didn't due to some tragic event beyond our control, which wasn't really about us. good luck, and merry Christmas to you

Answer 4

I know it really hurts, travel don't stay home too much leave right
after work that's if you work during the week only and don't stay home on week-ends.

I waited for my ex to come home after he moved out, I filed for divorce one week later. I went to say good-bye on his birthday. Divorce really hurts.

I had a good bundle so I would get on the phone and phone good friends every night.

Answer 5

oh boy my friend,,,,,,,apperently you havent been divorced very long,,,,,,
first let me say im sorry,,,,it hurts like a bastard i know....

ok lets get to it,,,,,,,
in a nut shell........it takes time,,,,lots of time,,,they say the average recovery time is about 5 years,,,,yeah i know that sounds like a bunch,,,,and it is,,,that is a significant amount of time,,,,,,,
the thing you have to remember is the last part is not as painful as the first part,,,,so it wont hurt as much as it does today in 6 months from now,,,,if you do things properly...

now what i mean by properly is,,,get some help,,,,you can do it on your own but thats a slice of hell you dont want,,,,,,

now,,,,you can go to your church if your so inclined,,,sometimes they have a divorce care group that you can join,,,,i joined one myself,,,,,im not overly religous but it helps,,,,,,

get some counseling,,,,,,it'll help

also the depresion your going to feel,,,,is a monster that you cant beat on your own,,,,its perfectly natrual to get depressed,,,,whats not natural is staying that way,,,,see your doctor,,,,,,,if he/she wants you to take some anti depression meds,,,go ahead they help you fight the monster,,,,,

also,,,,if there is no chance of recionciliation,,,,,,,,do not jump right into a relationship you aint ready for that,,,,,trust me,,,,,i know you want and need someone right now,,,,but really you dont,,you need to get YOU back first and then you can start to work on finding love again.

AND NO DRUGS OR DRINKING,,,,,,,,,,NONE,,,,,,,,booze causes deppression naturally,,,,,,,so stay away from it,,,,,and the drugs,,,,,,,there never good any time,,,,,,,and yes i know lots about abusing both of them,,,,,,,,

find a friend or family member to talk with,,,,,,,,maybe they have a chat room for divorced people,,,,be careful of those there full a wierdos,,,,,,,,,or a church member if your so inclined,,,,i'll include a link that'll get you to your closest divorce care group,,,,thats the only reason im able to write this to you,,,,,,i would have never made it with out the support group

http://www.divorcecare.com

heres the link,,,you can get an email from them for a daily help thing,,,,,,i get them sometimes they really help,,,,,plus it will show you were the closest meeting is,,,,,,,

and then,,,alittle trick i figured out to help me get through,,,,,,

when it gets really bad,,,,,,

tell yourself to just get through the next hour,,,,or half hour,,,or 15 min. what ever you can do,,,,,,and then when you get through that,,,,,,go another hour or whatever,,,,,,,,and another,,,,and before you know it,,,a day has pasted,,,,,,and then another one of those,,,,,,and then a month.....,,,,,and then two ,,,,,,,

most important things,,,,,stay away from the booze and drugs,,,take care of your health,,,,,EAT HEALTHY,,,,,, trust me your gonna need the energy,,,,,DO NOT THINK SOME THING IS WRONG WITH YOU,,, just because your partner thought so does not mean your defective your not !!!!!!!!!!!!!! dont lock your self away at home,,,,,youll need to be around people ,,,you might not feel like it,,,but you do,,,,,,

keep your head up my friend,,,,,,,,,it'll get better,,,,,,im living proof of that.......it takes time but it will,,,,,,,,besides time is all you got now,,,,,your divorced,,,,,,sorry ,,,little joke there,,,,you gotta laugh sometimes too.......

hang in there you'll be fine,,,,,

S

Answer 6

All you can do is push through it, if you're lucky you'll find someone who'll help you take your mind off it.I'm going through the same thing right now and at this time of year it really does suck! Good luck and just remember there are a lot of us out here, you're not alone.

Answer 7

You move on with your life, do things you enjoy, be out around people. Divorce is always a tough one. You need to just hold your chin up high and go on! Good Luck!

Answer 8

FROM EXPERIENCE, YOU GET OVER A DIVORCE ONE DAY AT A TIME. WORRY ABOUT HOW TO GET THROUGH TOMORROW WHEN IT GETS HERE.

ALSO, ACCEPT THE OFFERS OF SUPPORT FROM YOUR FRIENDS. AT A TIME LIKE THIS, YOU REALLY NEED THEM AND WILL LEARN WHICH ONES ARE YOUR 'TRUE' FRIENDS.
YOU KNOW, TRUE FRIENDS ARE THE ONES YOU CAN COUNT ON NO MATTER WHAT YOU ASK, OR WHEN YOU ASK IT OF THEM.

I WISH YOU THE BEST AND KNOW THAT YOU SHOULD JUST TAKE YOUR TIME AND KNOW THAT THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE OUT THERE FOR YOU. JUST BE PATIENT.

Answer 9

take life one day at a time. you do the things you enjoy, take up a hobby, travel, whatever. start getting out, you don't have to get right into the dating scene, you can ease into it. dinner with some one, nothing serious.

Answer 10

take one day at a time and try to get back into the dating scene