I don't know much about relationships or marriage, but it seems to be that it often starts off with a certain kind of magic. Unfortunately, the magic sometimes begins to fade after several years and couples often split up because of this. Is it possible to ever keep the sparks from fizzling?
2006-12-25 11:22:14 · 14 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
our spark has developed into ferocious flames over our 28 years of marriage but it doesn't happen by accident you have to conciously work at it
2006-12-25 11:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by David C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of Course! My hubby and I have been married for over 3 years now, and been a couple for 6 years. There are going to be highs and lows, but two people just have to work together to keep that spark. Keeping the magic alive is all the fun!
2006-12-25 11:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by Angie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a word, yes. However, your observations are real especially the magic part. Couples need to tend each other. If they don't, what they have will fade. Weekends away, flowers for no reason, romantic ocean-front dining, quiet intimate times at home alone, picnics at a park or anything that makes each other special. Rekindle the spark that ignites magic and dazzles each one to the day they met.
P.S. Become creative between the sheets.
2006-12-25 11:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a long term relationship there will be ups and downs but the bond grows stronger and the intensity of the relationship gets deeper and Yes! the spark can still be kept alive.
2006-12-25 11:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible. For my wife and I a few years ago it seemed like the spark had gone out, and I had started thinking only of myself, but that spark is back. Alot of it had to do with us putting each other first and not thinking about ourselves. And considering each others feelings and needs before our own.
It made a a huge difference.
2006-12-25 11:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love eachother, truely, then you can make it work. You gotta talk to eachother about why and how the "sparks" are "fizzling" and how they can improve. Like, my boyfriend used to be sooo sweet and spontaneous and romantic, but now after being together for so long, he has kinda stopped doing that. i kinda just give him hints and stuff like saying you used to be soo sweet. and awww remember when you did that? that was so amazing, i miss that. and things like that. they'll get the hint and do something to sweep you off your feet again.
also, doing new things together and trying new things hlp too. you need to learn new things about ur partner all the time, it keeps you interested and makes you fall in love all over again.
2006-12-25 11:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by sunkist3122 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyday show some kindness and always kiss each other once a day out of the blue for no special reason. Then you realize the magic is still there.
2006-12-25 11:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 23:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but it takes work! Show your affection for each other every day, in little ways, not just when you want sex. It's the little things that keep a relationship alive. Also try not to get stuck in a rut--not to say you should get all crazy, but try new things with each other (in bed and otherwise!) Sharing new experiences keeps things new and exciting in your relationship.
2006-12-25 11:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by kittenpie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sure.
You and the partner have to keep an open communication. Come up with new ideas and try to avoid what the partner turns off.
2006-12-25 11:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by Susanne R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋