My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years. He says that we don't have any chemistry, and that he doesnt have the urge to have sex or even kiss me. Today was the first time he's kissed me in almost 2 1/2 weeks. The chemistry is not there for me because we dont have sex. He is 31 years old and I am 19 years old. I try to pretend everything is okay but I feel lonely and unloved. He hasnt told me he loves me in over a month, but he says that he wants kids here in the next 5 years, and that he wants to be married for at least 4 before the children come. When I mention things about getting married, he always tells me to have patience. But I get the feeling he doesnt have to marry me. We've talked about what if things don't work out, because he pays all the bills and everything in the house is his. I have nothing but my car. What should I do?
2006-12-25 11:16:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you even slightly think its time to move on, then it is time to move on...you just have to come to terms with it and accept it. Best of luck
2006-12-29 00:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Chad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is over and he just doesn't know how to tell you. He's hoping you'll get the hint and move out because he's said you don't have chemistry anymore. If there isn't any chemistry then how do you expect to get married and have kids??? This thing is OVER, and you just have to realize it.
He's too old for you and he took advantage of your age. Can't believe your parents would let you move in with a guy this age!!!
He says there isn't chemistry anymore and doesn't want to have sex anymore because he's found someone else or at the very least is unable to commit. Either way, you're out of his life already in his eyes.
As soon as possible, like tomorrow, pack up your stuff, move back in with your parents or temporarily with one of your friends. If he's been paying all the bills and you don't work, you're just a hired maid. Find family or friends to live with, get a job, and look for a place to live.
If you have a job - what are you waiting for - move out!!!
Its hard to hear this, but I'm trying to give you the right perspective of this relationship. You can't see or understand this and I hope you put this question here to get this type of answer. Sometimes its better to hear this from a person outside the relationship.
Leave this loser and get on with your life!!!
2006-12-25 19:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are 19 and he's 31! You are gift to a man like that . Don't allow him to waste anymore of you life and time. The things you are saying about him not loving on you say a lot too. Also the thing about putting nothing in your name is bad too. He is not building a life with you .... he is wasting your time. You say he doesn't want to marry you !!!
I know it's hard but do you want to turn around in five years and still be his girlfriend with nothing more than a car to your name ???
Question : If you were hit the lottery tomorrow would you stay or go ???
2006-12-25 19:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had "relationship" myself when i was 19 with 32 years old guy. our mentality was completely different. If there is no chemistry now, what are you going to do all your life with him? as someone said, the relationship is over, and he probably doesnt know how to tell you and hopes you will make the decision to leave so he doesnt have to feel guilty. I know it is very hard to break up and get over it, but it is possible. You are too young for him, and anyways, this just doesnt work. so try to be strong, and find yourself someone, who will have the chemistry.
2006-12-25 19:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by Eli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start doing something positive for yourself...to develop a career for yourself....It sounds like this relationship has serious problems before it has even gotten off the ground. Sounds like maybe he has something going with someone else if he doesn't have any interest in you... don't get stuck in an unsatisfying and loveless relationship. You might want to consider moving on.
2006-12-25 19:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Are you really happy here at all? Or are you living in the hope of having what you had before. Plus, thats a big age difference.
2006-12-25 19:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by Katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on because you are young . You have alot to give in these world . You shouldn't wait for someone that doesn't show you love. He might not love you anymore. That's if he even loved you? Life is to short ! Move ON
2006-12-25 19:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To young move on you could do better,when a man doesn't tell you i love within 1 years you need to move on.
2006-12-25 19:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by EVA E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way tooo young! Move on
2006-12-25 19:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by ANAWHO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋