I know men have this thing about porn, but ADDICTION is a different ball game altogether. And it's not like he always perform in bed...
2006-12-25 11:12:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. Tell his mom or both parents.
2. Buy magazines full of pics of hot males and leave them around for him to see..for him to have a taste of his medicine.
3. Create a password and not even allow him to get into Microsoft or whatever. If he asks why, say "u should know..."
4. Tell him about the news you've heard about a wife who stabbed her hubby to death upon discovering he surfed porn too often. That should scare him abit, if not alot!
2006-12-28 13:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs Kee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is getting more and more common these days. I have to strongly disagree with the people who think you should go ahead and watch the porn with him. He obviously has what's called a "sexual addiction" and as with any addiction, you should not become an enabler to the habit, especially since it's affecting your sex life together. Plus, most men that are addicted to porn engage in "internet sex" and I'm sorry, but that IS THE SAME THING AS CHEATING on your spouse. He needs to get some professional counseling from a therapist as soon as possible. And he's lucky if you decide to stick by him and support him with overcoming this problem. I certainly would not have the patience for it. Above all, don't put your needs on the back burner for him and his deep seated "issues". Please do what's right for YOU and look out for yourself.
Happy holidays to you.
2006-12-25 19:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny A_331 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He more than likely has a higher than average sex drive, and got tired of having to beg for sex from you.
If you let the fire go out of your love making, he's going to stray to something that fills the gap or lack of sex.
Be thankful he hasn't found another lady to play with.
Also, perhaps you haven't looked in the mirror lately, maybe you have gained weight or don't look as appealing to him anymore. Some women let themselves go after they are married putting on ton's of weight.
Society is obsessed with creating mountains out of mole hills by labeling people with addictions and names.
The statement that men have this thing for porn is total bullshit!
With the internet readily available, women are just as likely as not to be engaged in porn, sex chatrooms etc. Just because you are female doesn't mean one is free of porn.
It's time for a sitdown with him and discuss your sexual desires and needs, and if he can't perform, perhaps JOINT counseling is in order.
Once in counseling you may find yourself requiring a good bit of counseling, it's generally been my experience that the spouse who complains the most about the other's habits that has the problem that is more serious.
2006-12-26 06:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put a content filter on your computer and set the password so only YOU know the password to the filter. Your husband had a sexual addiction and he NEEDS help for it. He needs to get into counceling because sexual addiction is one of the hardest addictions to overcome, I know I've overcome a sexual addiction, and it's NOT easy. If he goes to counceling, be supportive of him, because it will be very helpful to him to overcome the addiction.
Hope this helps.
Merry Christmas and God Bless
2006-12-25 19:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't unaddict someone. They have to unaddict themselves.
I think you need to discuss this, somewhere other than bed. It's a very delicate subject. You have to confront it without being confrontational.
Tell him how you feel and what you think, but don't use absolutes. "I feel like" and "I think that" are good. "You always ____" is bad.
It's fair to tell him that you feel like he's "taking care of himself" with online porn, and that you feel that it's affecting your love life.
Prescribing a solution is doomed to fail. Bring the problem to his attention and see if HE proposes a solution.
Good luck.
2006-12-25 19:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
He is too free. You can create some activities to occupy his time, so that he will not idle himself into the porn sites.
2006-12-25 19:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get counseling together. He can't handle an addiction by himself and there's no reason you should compromise your feelings to cater to his.
2006-12-25 21:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can install "NetDog Porn Filter", it will block all porn websites quitely in the background when your husband's on the internet. you can get netdog from: http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-12-25 23:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
HA! inst your parental controls and don't give him the pass word, make it something he'll never geuss! He should take care of the home fires before he goes out on the town!
2006-12-25 19:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mad Dog Johnson 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i am only 14 but my dad who commited suicide was addicted to porno websights and images of all types. my mom couldnt handle it anymore so she devorced him..on the day she filed it he killed himself..
get help..if u have kids it will hurt them a lot..
2006-12-25 20:00:46 · answer #10 · answered by Kalee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋