I was married at 18, had my first child at 19. Now my kids grown and almost grown, 19,16, and 15. I am 38 he is 47. I love him but am not in love with him. I feel guilty but cannot see myself continuing on with this . Just wondering if anyone else had a similar situation.
2006-12-25 10:20:54 · 7 answers · asked by pat1268 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been feeling the same way for a few years now. I am 39 and my hubby is 43. I have been with my husband for 22 long years. My children are almost grown also (22, 19 & 14) I'm not sure why I feel this way, but here is my theory. Sexually I am not satisfied. I think this is a huge problem. I've told him what I want and still don't get it. (Tired of repeating myself) I have been trying to work on telling him my feelings, but he just doesn't understand or get it. I think we need to be more upfront with ourselves and our husbands. Don't you? Are we really not in love or do we just want to feel the excitement you feel when you first meet someone new. Would an affair help? I don't know, but a lot people are having affairs. I'm not sure I want that, but would love to have that feeling again. I'm sure we all do. There are times when I just want to get out of this relationship, but then reality hits and I'm thinking what am I saying. I guess I am thinking too much into this and I know I am not the only one feeling this way, right? So I guess we both need to think about if we want to start our dating life over or try to keep this one alive. I guess I wasn't much help?? Good luck to both of us, aye. Just to let you know you are not alone. I wish you the best of luck!!!
2006-12-26 03:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by Stormy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not been married for 20 plus years but I have been for 3 years and with my husband since I was 16. All together we have been together for 8 years. I know that you will probably think that I am to young to have input in your question, but I will say this that I am in the same situation as you are. I don't think it matters if it is more that 20 yrs or not. I guess every relationship gets this way in its own time.. I think you are very lucky to have made it this far. I am debating divorce I am having such a hard time with this. I hate to say it but I feel relieved that someone else out there understands. All my questions have been answered with people telling me that I am selfish and childish that if he is not beating me I should deal with it and move on. I just cant seem to get it out of my mind that I am too damn young to have these feelings. Look at me I am talking about my situation while trying to answer your question. I would like for you to e-mail me if you don't mind @ whirlybirdof2006@yahoo.com!
2006-12-25 10:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by jennalicious 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not, per se, but I think there are more options than you see. Maybe a seperation for a time would be best. You can clear your head and see what is really important. Then decide to fall in love again and give it another go. Or to go your seperate ways. Either way, it is hard to be best friends with someone, and then to break their heart by leaving them. Try to stay friends if he is a good person, and don't have a long drawn out divorce.
2006-12-25 10:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my wife for eighteen years. Here is my suggestion, You and your husband should go o a mini vacation together. Hopefully this will rekindle your relationship. But don't just jump in with a divorce.
2006-12-25 11:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by HAGAR!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dating your husband.. rekindle things; have fun together.. then if it still ain't all that; u may have to move on; but give a honest try at it 1st
2006-12-25 10:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by Allen L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard if that happening. It actually happened with my parents. They divorced after 25 years, when they were about your age in fact.
2006-12-25 10:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman please! It's time for chapter 2!
Tell your husband that you love him, but you need to mow other lawns....
There is no sense in staying with someone just because he/she is convenient or safe....
2006-12-25 10:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋