Baby Crying Problems? Any Advise?

Question

Our baby, bless him, only 16 days old. Between the hours of 10pm to about 0100 just wants to cry. We've ruled out colic, wet bum, and hunger.
This just seems to be his crying time - is this normal... Does anyone else have this problem? How do you Deal?

Answer 1

there isn't anything you can do, babies cry....it's not a bad thing, we all assume that if a baby is yelling then there is something wrong but this isn't the case. You've done all the usual checks, hunger, nappy, comfort and none of these are wanted then just let him have his hour of glory and let him yell. it can be soul destroying but just go with it, he's new and can't do much else. It does stop eventually and you'll wonder what all the fuss was about . good luck

Answer 2

Poor thing! Babies cry, and in a way, this is an excellent exercise for them. As long as you have ruled out gas pains, wet diaper, hunger, warmth/cold and chafing clothes (and the baby doesn't have a fever, is peeing and pooping regularly and seems otherwise healthy), you just need to deal with it.

One thing to do is you *can* take a 15 minute break from it, and just get out, walk around the house. Try to make time to get naps during the day -- maybe after work, or get to bed extra early so you can deal with being up for three hours in the middle of the night. Take turns getting out of the house for a few hours.

And remember that it is normal.

I live in Japan, and they have a special ceremony for babies after the first 30 days (or so), and another one when the baby is 100 days old. Things get a little easier after 30 days, especially with the first baby. Things get a lot easier after 100 days! The baby starts sleeping better, you know what you are doing, and things just generally settle down. So, I think that's also good to know -- things are really tough at first, but they get better.

Join an on-line group, or even a local baby group (or hang out with other new fathers and mothers) -- it's also very reassuring to hear *your* problems come out of *their* mouths. Everyone goes through many of the same problems.

Congratulations on the new baby, and hang in there! They are sooooo worth it!

Answer 3

it sounds normal, some babies cry more than others. there could be a number of different reasons for the crying. at this age crying is the only way that the baby has to tell you anything. he might have gas, so try some Mylicon Drops or something. also crying is the only way to get rid of excess energy right now. sometimes a new face can help. when you or your wife get tense about his crying he will be able to tell and this will make him cry even more, so take turns walking him. if you are worried that it could be something serious, then you should give the pediatrician a call and tell them what's going on.

sometimes when nothing seems to work with my son i take his diaper off and let him air out for a while. he has loved this since we brought him home from the hospital, and he is five months now.

but whatever you do don't just lay him down to "cry it out". babies this age need love, affection, and attention. i have learned in my social work classes that babies that were given the love and attention that they needed cry less as they get older because they know you will be there for them when they really do need you. babies who are left to "cry it out" are more clingy and cry more to get your attention. the ones that are shown love and attention early on are more secure.

i have also been taught that children under 6 months can't be spoiled, so don't worry about carrying him around and holding him so much right now, because he needs it.

Answer 4

Richard, you need your sleep, even if only to function as a parent. My advice is totally contrary to that in any book, but it preserved my sanity, and my son is now a healthy, happy 40 year old.

Make sure he is well fed, burped, clean nappy, warm, and comfortable. No pillow - nothing that could possibly suffocate him. Wrap him up snug, turn the light out, leave the room, close the door. Go into another room, put some music on try and get some sleep. Let him cry - he will not die of it. Check him every hour or so if you are awake. The crying will not go on for ever, her will not suffer psychological damage. I know I will get lots of thumbs down for this, but I believe you have to think of the family as a whole, not just the newborn.

Answer 5

Did you asked your pediatrician about this? Are those the only hours that he cries, or cry every time that you put him to sleep? Is he doing this since he born or is doing it recently?

Check with your pediatrician if it is not ear infection, or if he has some type of ache somewhere, or something else.

Children do cry, but endless crying can be something out of normal.

Answer 6

Does he stop crying when you hug him? If so its attention, best way to deal with this is to wait a minute first time dont make eye contact, second time he does it wait 2 mins again dont make eye contact or speak, keep on doing this leaving longer and longer gaps between picking him up and hugging him.
Whatever you do , DONT take him into your bed, never do that or trust me you will never sleep right.
I know it sounds cruel but honestly its the way i was taught and it worked for us.

Answer 7

Ahhh...poor thing you. Yes, it is normal. Some babies just cry. Just make sure that he/she is comfortable (dry diaper, full belly, not too hot or cold) and the baby is ok. I promise the crying will get better! The best thing that ever worked for me when one of my babies were crying is a vacuum cleaner or taking a drive. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

babies cry fact! crying time ??? never heard of it , early days to have a routine but maybe he just wants your attention between these hours before he sleeps try to establish a routine of sleep and hopefully you can get a good nights rest in about four/fives years (thats a lie as a parent you never stop thinking and worrying about your kids)

Answer 9

Babies cry for more than just hunger & thirst. They may be uncomfortable, hot, cold, sick, have gas, colic etc. If you put a bottle to the baby & he is still crying, then that is not the solution. You have to figure it out. If all else fails call Pediatrician. And what is it with the "Peck on His Shoulder? and what is "Berrs"?

Answer 10

well my daughter used ti cry every 2hours when she was a baby, like you tried many things , thought maybe there was not enough breast milk, then we gave her a dummy with a little bit of pure honey , & she slept more, but still woke up often try the dummy with out anything on it, if no joy speak to your nurse when she comes in to check baby Merry Christmas , & congratulations