Husband doesn't care about himself.?

Question

I am honestly worried about my husband. Before we met, 2 years ago, he wasn't living a good lifestyle. He wouls get 2 hours of sleep everynight, not eat, house was a mess. When I moved in I cleaned the house up and organized his finances. But I cannot get him to take care of himself. He has started sleeping more, I have him up to 5 hours of sleep everynight, but he will not eat. He smokes cigarettes like they are going out of style and drinks 6 cans of Red Bull a day, but will not eat. He is 34 years old, we have only had 2 years together, I don't want to lose him. Any advice on how to convince him to eat? I tried to make all kinds of food and he only picks at it. He will binge on junk food every few days, but that's the extent of his eating. He will sometimes go 2 days with no food. He has weighed the same weight since I met him (a low number), he is not physically sick, jus doesn't eat. Thanks in advance for the help.

He is under alot of stress and has been since before I met him. He hasn't seen his children for 6 years, due to visa issues.

Red Bull is an energy drink, no alcohol. My husband does not drink, it is against our religion.

Answer 1

Sounds very much like depression. He's not hungry because of the RedBulls and the smokes. But he's on the fast road to health problems. Encourage him to eat better and to see a doctor, but thats all you can do.

Don't become his mother. Its a lose-lose situation.

Answer 2

This seems to common amongst younger men they need good food and sleep to enrich there future I know this may be hard but try get him to go to the doctor after you have spoken to the doctor he can suggest councilling to your husband that way it seems like you are not telling him what he has to do saving you from any arguements.Also let him know you love him a lot and would do almost anything for him .Lack of sleep causes a lot of this maybe the doctor could give him some sleeping tablets and one last thing make sure he is not taking drugs even some sinus or cold and flu tablets can keep you awake .I am not familiar with red bull if that is a beer then see if it tells you the % of alcohol it may sound strange but the higher the % the more likely he will get hungry the next day so even buy him a bourbon to drink with his beer might help but keep in mind councilling is best and a trip to the doctor .I wish you well don't give up on him please show him real love from the heart not necessarily from sex it is said what you give you receive when he receives your total love and understanding then he should start to return it giving you the chance to help him until then be patient good luck will pray for you both ..john.

Answer 3

It sounds to me like he is just into a routine of bad habits now.... i would not worry to much unless it starts to effect his physical health... stress can make you act in that way, but how you discribed this it seems more of a lifestyle that he has now... and that is a hard thing to change, even when once married.. i would say fix those meals more that he at least picks at... that way he is eating somthing solid... other then that just keep an eye on his health and keep trying new methods... ...possibly smaller meals more times during the day... or having some food prepared all the time that he likes..... even snacks are a good alternative, somthing he likes to nibble on that is resonably good for him...... above all this i would just be supportive and keep an eye on his health... im sure once things settle down these habits might change on there own...

Answer 4

get yourself totally horny first jump him then jump off before he gets his and say see this is what it's usually like for me. How could you marry someone so selfish and or inexperienced, it's going to be a long frustrating life if things don't change soon they never will trust me been there done that. I found the perfect man for me the hard way by not settling for second best anymore. If you don't have kids yet get out as soon as possible men like that never change.

Answer 5

I would say both of you go talk to a doctor and try to change his lifestyle, but you can do so much but if he doesn't want to for himself, not you or the best doctors in the world can help. The first step is with him, he will need to make a commitment that he will try to change for the best. With that you can go to the next level. Without that I am sorry to say that this is an impossible task to accomplish.

Answer 6

Wow, so your upset that your rescuing techinques haven't worked?
Get professional help. There could be any number of and combinations of factors which would cause this behavior.
Depression, chemical imbalances, intestinal issues, adrenal gland problems, immaturity.... so on and so forth and while you love him deeply you are not qualified to "fix" him.

Answer 7

sounds to me that he either has an eating disorder or he has emotional issues...either way, he needs to get professional help for his issues...by not eating well, he is starving his body of essential nutrients...eventually, it will catch up with him and can only have a bad outcome...good luck

Answer 8

i think maybe that's just the way he is....you fell in love with him that way and you know it's bad for him ...but some times people think they change the one they love,and you've heard that most of the time it doesn't work....but keep trying you ,he might get lucky ,because of you :)

Answer 9

My husband went thru that and I discovered he was totally depressed and needed medication .

Answer 10

try making tubule and fries , his probably stressed out about something , talk to him about whats gong on