only been married 5months, love my husband with all my heart. spent christmas day with my family, his family are not in this country. heard there was a party but couldnt get a babysitter for my daughter. last minute he tells me, im gona go to this party. i was due to give birth yesterday to our first child together,told him i know it was going to be a bit boring being stuck in the house, but i would have liked to spend our first christmas together. after trying to make me feel bad, he went anyway. he doesnt even like the people holding the party and he says hes off the drink.am i expecting too much to want him to be at home??
2006-12-25 09:56:41 · 32 answers · asked by Mrs_W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh for crying out loud.
If you start accepting this twisted logic form of abuse you're in for a long, desperately painful marriage. Put your foot down on this cr@p before it gets worse.
2006-12-25 10:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely not expecting too much or being unreasonable. Your husband should be at home with you because it is your first Christmas together as a married couple and you are the future mother of his children (probably very soon). If he is acting this way on the day that is meant for families and togetherness how will he treat you the rest of the year? Approach him about it but don't yell or criticize him- he will just get defensive. Explain that this hurt your feelings and that all you want on this holiday is to be with him- the one that you love. If that does not work you may want to rethink what kind of man are you willing to live with and have as the father to your child. Good Luck!
2006-12-25 11:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by milehighaviator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion yes...Not only are you expecting to give birth, and are late in the pregancy, you are carrying his child and he should be there to support you, as you could give birth anyday!!
What if you went into labour tonight??
He should be caring for you tonight-plus its christmas-what other pregnant mum to be, who is due any day is left alone on Christmas night without her husband????? For a party???? I honestly I dont know anyone!!
Its just irresponsible and selfish. Are you alone?
Secondly, you have only been married 5 months... You both should be very much in love and with one another, supporting one another-especialley with another baby on the way.
And it would have been your first Christmas together...and hes at a party that he apparantly isnt too bothered about going to...when he should be spending the first christmas with you!!
Points to warning signs if you ask me. Are you sure hes going to the party? As why would someone leave their pregnant wife and daughter to go to a party they didnt "really" want to go to?? Doesnt add up!
He seems immature and selfish.
You need to talk to him and explain how you feel when he gets home (or better to do so in the morning) and tell him that you need his support.
Make sure that he doesnt do this to you too often!
Good luck in the rest of your pregnancy! :) and merry christmas,
xx
2006-12-25 10:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur kidding right? i dont mean to be harsh but hes a jerk! i know u love him but it doesn't seem that he loves you, if he did he would spend that first Christmas with you, instead of people he doesn't like. or was there someone there that he liked? and u just don't know. and to top it off ur gonna have a baby any minute.. what the hell is wrong him. i tell you whut if i was ur brother or your father i would drag his butt behind the barn and give him a throw down, you hear me. you know I've got a lot of country in me and id love to plant my tony lama's right in his, well you know.. I'm sorry he done this to you.. but i would take a good hard look at your future with him.. heck i hope u don't ever need to be rushed to the hospital, sounds like this guy would take the long way there
so no your not wrong wanting him to stay home, its where he should have been, next to you loving and caring with a big smile waiting for his child to be born... good luck, God bless
2006-12-25 10:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by boots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think ur expecting too much at the all.
i think ur right to feel the way you do, i no id have been the same way.
especially considering the fact that u r ready to give birth at any time, wot would have happened if u had gone into labour.
i dont understand y he went to the party if he doesnt like the people r u sure thats where he was and its not just a cover up cos he was somewhere else.
sounds to me like even if u had got a babysitter he probably wouldnt have gone then. smelly like a rat to me
2006-12-27 20:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not expecting too much. I would talk to him about it, tell him why you were upset and explain that it wasn't the issue of him going to the party by himself, point out the obvious issues eg. first Christmas and being pregnant, if hes anything like my husband he probably doesn't even know that he upset you or why you were angry. And probably thinks you were just trying to be controlling.
2006-12-25 17:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by CC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real piece of work. He should of stayed home with you if you couldn't go. You have only been married 5 months and he treats you this way, I'd say you are in for a sad lonely life. You should rethink things. He sounds like a jerk, sorry.
2006-12-25 16:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least three reasons to stay home with you:
Its Christmas
Your's newly married
Your baby's due any day
It's not too much too expect. I know how I'd deal with it, but that not be right for you. But I would advise you to sort it out quickly, otherwise he might think its par for the course to treat you like this. Try not to turn it into a slanging match, but let him know youre upset.
2006-12-25 10:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God your Hubie sounds like mine, and he has just told me that he has been having an affair for the last 6 weeks, and yes it's Christmas night with 2 Boy's under 7
Unfortunately they will always idiot brat's so, do what I'm doing and get rid.
2006-12-25 17:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by live life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck with the baby. When you are ready, after the birth, (ie when it suits you), take a good long look at this man. If he treats you like this now, what of the future? His behaviour is totally wrong.
Good Luck
2006-12-26 09:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋