2006-12-25 09:43:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no because you have to be honest, it would be better for you and him
goodluck
2006-12-25 09:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done it for nearly 30 years. To raise her kid. then stayed with it to raise his kids which are now 15, 13, 7, 6 & 3. The 15 & 13 have moved on with their Mother, but I still have the young ones from a different Mother. Tried an affair about 11 years ago, but that was a nightmare. A real answer: Follow your heart and they say: the truth will set you free.
2006-12-25 12:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by dispatcher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really gets me. If you don't love him, then why did you marry him? Don't say you fell out of love. That's crap. How can you stay with someone for 5 years and all of a sudden... Oops I don't love you anymore. Time to move on to something new. Is it that you thought this was the best you could do and now someone else is showing interest? Sorry to be such a witch, but my answer is no. Emphatically and empirically NO! You made a commitment to this man and to your marriage and you need to do whatever you can to try and work it out. Maybe you need couples therapy, maybe you need a sex therapist to revive your relationship. But is it really worth throwing away that much time invested in training him to do things the way you like?
2006-12-25 10:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get treated just as you allow him to treat you. Women always want to blame themselves(housekeeper,etc?) instead of having a healthy self esteem and expecting a certain behavior --respect .Maybe he is satisfied with HIS goal met. Maybe you have higher goals. Maybe you or he feels comfortable with your partner, and don't feel like looking or taking a chance with someone else, but the true love and commitment that a marriage requires just isn't there. Did you both talk about your lives, goals, how to raise kids and when to have them, who will handle finances, set up life savings,ins., savings for a special item, religion, family, etc. before starting the live-in situation or was it just for convenience,cheaper for rent etc., or did sex settle it? If you didn't discuss all of it and more, then NOW is the time to talk about all of it BEFORE either can make choices that will change your 1st choice. Decide if he is capable of working towards your goals or if you both need to compromise or if you need to decide for yourself, "well , this has been a great experience but I really am ready and need the fulfillment of taking the next step toward MY goal." and then get on with life. Tell him that you have enjoyed the time, have no bitter feelings, and you want him in your life as a friend forever but that you really need to grow. Some people are incapable of making or reaching higher goals for themselves or compromise to meet part of yours, even though they may Say that they love you. Remember that you may love him but can't be totally happy with him as it now stands. If you stay unhappy then your relationship will be broken and you won't even have him as a friend! Think, talk and I hope you have a happy ending!
2016-05-23 06:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no....
let him go to someone who DOES love him and you find a good person too.
to keep him from his own true love is just about as selfish as a person can get....well except for the mother that chooses to deliver a child and then abuses him,instead of doing the loving thing and put her up for adoption. I think you see the correlation here don't you?
give yourself the gift of love, you deserve it.
2006-12-25 10:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should be asking himself if he wants to be with someone who can't spell and speak right. Go to counseling and speech therapy. Maybe that would help. You have to have the will power to stick with it. It takes more than just love to stay with a person.
2006-12-25 09:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. If u don't love him then why b with him?. Marriage is a treasure that means a special bonding with the most special person in ur life!.
Good luck!.
2006-12-25 09:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling. Marriage is not something to take lightly
2006-12-25 09:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by me2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you should have just dated him longer, so you could have found out you weren't in love with him, BEFORE you got married.
Thanks for adding to the depressing divorce statistics.
2006-12-25 11:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if youare not happy then the chances are he isn't either. You have to be honest with your partner even if it hurts him.
2006-12-25 09:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you both want out of this marriage.
2006-12-25 09:47:38 · answer #11 · answered by frivologs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋