I've been suffering from chest/heart/lung pain since i was 13 i'm 27 now. I have various other pains and medical problems such as colon pain and problems. I don't have a kid nor a girlfriend now but i wonder if It's fair to the baby to give him life when you know he might have my same problems
2006-12-25 09:38:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
I say go for it, i mean if you love a girl and she is willing to take that chance then you should to. No matter what the baby looks like you should love it, no matter what problem it has. The child may end up dieing but ...OK i saw this movies once on TV (just bare with me it connects with your problem) a women had a very bad lung problem and unfortunetly her son ended up having it too but she knew that no matter what happened to him she would love him. That is what mad her continue on living even after the boy had died. she did fun things with him and mad him laugh whenever she could. it was all about doing all you could before the time was up. if you want to have a child then have one, you do have chance of it not being transmitted to your child..it's 50/50. but i think if you go for it with the right type of attitude and have faith and confidence then you are going to make a great dad and have a wonderful time with you son or daughter . it is fair to he child because you have given him something that no one ells did...........life....even if it's not long.... if you make it worth it what more could he ask for.
we cant choose how long we live... we just have to make our life worth living for!
good luck your going to make a good dad, im sure if it
2006-12-25 10:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by shoo shoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say what condition is the cause of your chest/heart/lung pain.......and many of those conditions are hereditary, but not all. Almost all of the medical conditions that would cause you colon pain and problems are NOT hereditary.
And even for the conditions that you have that are possibly passed on and inherited by genetics, that doesn't mean that any child you have would also have those problems. A genetic counselor (or even some of your own web research) would be able to give you statistics on the probability of passing it on-but it is NEVER 100%.
And the thing is, most of us want to experience the joys of parenting and bringing a life into the world. We all take a chance, even without problems like yours, that something will be medically wrong with our children. Do you think your parents should not have had you? Have you not enjoyed your life, even with illness?
You should not feel guilty about wanting a child-people do it all the time. Women over their late thirties have a much higher risk of having a child with down's syndrome-yet tens of thousands of them have healthy babies every year.
2006-12-25 09:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would check with a Doctor, but from what I have been told most things are inherited from our mothers. They never seemed to be interested in my father or his side of the family. Even so, many things we don't find out until much later anyway. I would say it depends on what you have, because today so many things can be simply taken care of before conception. Your problems may not be from inherited genes and your Dr. would know this. Maybe they are because your mother drank and or smoked while pregnant, even taking some over the counter drugs can cause the baby to be born with problems.
2006-12-25 09:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, whether you feel that it's fair or not is up to you and the potential mother of your child.
You do need some facts on which to base your decision, though. So, if there is any chance that your problems are inherited, you should be referred to a geneticist for counseling.
Don't forget though, that there are millions of children around the world who need good homes and loving parents. So, you and a potential partner can be parents. After all, being a parent isn't about being a gene donor but about nurturing and loving.
2006-12-25 09:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be worth it for your peace of mind to see a genetic counselor who could explain the chances of having a child with the same health problems that you have. It will also depend, to some extent, on the person with whom you have a child.
If you decide not to have children, you could always adopt.
2006-12-25 09:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by OK yeah well whatever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about ur health problems. but if u wont to get married an have a child, go for it, it doesnt mean it will have ur health problems. go ahead an give yourself a chance at happiness, an let the good lord take care of the rest. god bless ill be praying for u.
2006-12-25 09:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by preacher7003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know if your child would inherit your problems. You need to first have your doctor conclude your disorders then possibly see a genetic specialist who can determine if your disorders are genetically passed off and if so, what change percentage. Then take it from there. If it's a certainty of passing your disorders, then I would agree not to have children.
2006-12-25 09:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by S H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does your doctor say....... If its genetic than no don't pass it on to another generation, adopt. If it isn't well than find a nice girl and take care of yourself have a baby..... having people who depend on you, need you and love you can make you feel better about life..
2006-12-25 10:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by She Said 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have problems then chances are the baby will get them also. it's not fair to that child.
2006-12-25 09:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY, IT'S A CRAP SHOOT.........ALL OF LIFE IS A CRAP SHOOT. IF YOU CANNOT DEAL WITH IT, DON'T HAVE A CHILD.
2006-12-25 11:55:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋