Why is society trying to impose interracial relationships on people?

Question

If you say you don’t date outside your race you are called a red neck, racist, ect(like these men would care, they would try to sleep with me regardless if that was true about me). Doesn’t anybody date inside there race anymore? Why is it wrong that I prefer and feel my comfortable with men of my background?

Answer 1

a. I personally don't believe in racial mixing either. (Mainly because I believe in genetic differences.) I have learned, however, that the people who listen to your side of the argument and respect your opinion are usually the intelligent ones that can defend their points. (Regardless of which side they take.) The people that resort to name calling are the ones that can't defend their arguments or debate in an intelligent way. This is why I am against not only the people that want to ban discussions about issues like this (by labeling it as hate speech) but the people that use words like “h*nky”, “n!gger”, “sp!c”, etc. throughout their entire argument. They make the supporters of their side look like ignorant fools when they start ranting this way.
b. I think that this effort started shortly after two separate (but related) events:
1. Desegregation. Race riots were happening, there were a lot of hate crimes committed by all races, people of all ethnic backgrounds were trying to resegregate themselves, etc. Instead of accepting the fact that very few people were integrating themselves and then focusing on the problems that plagued the different ethnic groups (ie. economic barriers, religious barriers, etc.), the “one race” idea started. (Mainly to solve the resulting problems mentioned.) This is when interracial relationships started to get pushed. In many ways, forced integration, racial mixing, etc. are social experiments and/or the result of a failed one.
2. When Hollywood started releasing all the movies dealing with the new political and social turmoil. “West Side Story” and “Guess Who's Coming to Dinner” are two that come to my mind. People have always been very influenced by Hollywood and the Mainstream Media, so many people just decided that since it was popular it was right. This brings us back to the famous little quote “What is popular is not always right. What is right is not always popular.” In the end, I think that this is what really started the trend.

Answer 2

If only dating men of the same race as you is what you want to do, fine ... knock yourself out.

I don't have a problem with that, and I don't consider it to be racist -- you can't help who you're attracted to.

At the same time, I think you should also recognize that other people are not uncomfortable dating people of another ethnic background. This is a free country, after all.

Some people don't like it when people date people of a different race -- and it isn't always white people who take this attitude either.

I'm seeing a white guy now (I'm black hispanic) and trust me, we get just as many dirty looks and negative comments from non-whites as we do whites.

Most people are fine about it, though.

So to answer your question -- no, again, I don't think it's wrong for you to feel more comfortable with men of your own ethnic background.

But at the same time, I think it's wrong to try to impose that feeling on everybody else, and try to make everybody else think the same way that you do on this subject.

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Answer 3

Why do you care what society thinks. The people who think that are in fear of positive change because people are actually coming together instead of staying apart. I see you're obviously apart of the society thinking this so I don't know why would ask this. There's nothing wrong with wanting to date inside your race. Personally no one should give a crap who you date. No one is living life for anyone other than themselves...and that's who matters not what society thinks.

Answer 4

It has more to do with your personal preferences, and not with race. I am concern that race has anything at all to do with it. Most people like whom they like, that's it. They are drawn to whomever, without a conscious thought of color. If this is an issue always on your mind, then you need to examine the real reason why. Who is calling attention to who you date and why? You? your friends? Why are you apologizing, and for what? You need to ask yourself those questions first, and if you can honestly say it has nothing to do with racism, then you need to live your own life. You may just need to find new hangouts if you're hanging out in places where you know men of different races will hit on you (you say you don't want that). First, though, I would stop explaining, and stop being goated into those kinds of debates. "No, thanks" is still acceptable for any unwanted advances. Anything more from anybody, no matter who they are- is not worth the time you keep taking to justify something that just walking away could have resolved.

Answer 5

I don't believe anybody feels it is wrong to stick to your own "race". I do believe in dating, marrying, having children with whomever you feel comfortable with. I believe whatever discussions you have read about interracial relationships was most likely from a defensive standpoint, not some "Go out and date a different culture!" kind of argument. I believe it was probably more like, "If I want to date a different race why is it such a frowned upon" kind of idea. And I do think in general it is frowned upon by the people's families (who are used to all of their relatives being of the same color and religion).

P.S. I've never heard of anyone who doesn't date outside their race being called a redneck or racist. But, that is just my own experience..

Answer 6

So, back in the 70's I had this very good friend who just happened to be black. He was also a coke dealer, but hey, who wasn't in that age. I'm white and he always had a white girlfriend, never one of color. I asked him about this and he laughed and laughed and laughed and finally told me that he couldn't guilt anyone of his own race into dating such a loser as he was. He told me that all he had to say to a white chick was "so you must not like blacks (he didn't say blacks but I dare not write what he did say) huh, you prejudice?" and that 9 out of 10 of them would lay down and spread their legs. This might answer your question. I don't know.

I have one that is in line with yours. Why am I supposed to respect everybody else’s feelings and beliefs no matter how odd they are? Why, as a White Christian Man, am I not allowed my own beliefs about gays, interracial couples, sex with animals and illegal aliens and religions that want to destroy my way of life? I'm not screaming hateful slurs out the windows or beating and killing people but I don't seem to have the right to believe what I want without being branded a homophobic, racist, zoophiles or anti-Semitism?

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Answer 7

It isn't wrong that you prefer white people, as it isn't wrong to prefer dating people with blue eyes. However, if you make ultimatums, if you refuse to date ANY green eyed people or ANY black men, yeah, that's ignorant, and racist. Everyone is unique, you shouldn't count people out based on appearances. Most people, even, do date within their eithnicity, and nobody wants you to do anything. Nobody cares. There is no "they" out there that will judge you for your choices, and if anyone you know does, you should just tell them to shove it, and do what you want.

Answer 8

They can call you what they want, they'll do it anyway. Don't worry about it. There is nothing wrong with dating within your race. Personally, I'm not against interracial relationships......if that's what they want, then I say go for it. I'm like you though, I'd much rather date in my race. And no, I'm not a racist.

Answer 9

No it is not wrong to have a preference. I myself prefer black men so I guess I am racist also

Answer 10

What makes you say society is imposing it? Just date who you want and quit your sniveling. There are enough men and women to go around for everyone to date & marry EXACTLY who they want...

Gone are the days of white on white, black on black, asian on asian, hispanic on hispanic.

Personally I like the blends. Look at Halle! Gorgeous!