I feel that my husband loves me..Its just one of those things you know. But when situations have came where he needed to protect me he did not. He always stays on neutral ground. I know it is animal instict to take care of your wife when the time comes and he has yet to do that from many different occasions. His friend making moves on me and making me feel uncomfortable which I told him the day it happened. The next day he came over while my husband was leaving for work and he just left. Left me there do deal with the situation. Not to mention he never sticks up for me to his parents. He cant even get up and give me a hug when his parents are making me cry. Plus, he made the comment once that I should be a stripper for the money. But when I complain about his actions he just says he is sorry and a **** up. Never see's my point until I say something. I am so confused b/c he loves me he works hard for me and our son. I have told him how I feel he says he wants to change, but where is it
2006-12-25 09:19:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
♥ ♥maybe he feels you can deal with things on your own, you have either "trained" him to believe that or he was raised that way..so tell him what you need and be very plain about it ... if his parents "pick " on you and you want him to hug you and he wont well then go and hug him..that will tell you something about his upbringing...you are lucky that you realize he loves you, he just needs some encouragement..♥ ♥
2006-12-25 09:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says he wants to change, but, given what you just told me, he will never change. He is not a man, he is a immature boy in a man's body. If I was you, I would pack my stuff up and seperate from him. Until he finds a backbone and more of the strength to help out, he will always be like this. And, the fact that he does not seems to mind the fact that his friend's come over and make you feel uncomfortable in our own home indicates that he could care less of what happens to you. He seems to cater his friends more then you and how you feel.
I think he is the type of guy who probably would not mind if you "whore" yourself to his friends, because, that is what it sounds like to me. If he wants a stripper wife, he should have married just that: a stripper.
This is not a good environment. Take you and your son and leave. Tell a good couselor (*or a lawyer, if it gets that far) that you do not feel safe and that your husband knowingly accepts the fact that his friends are making advances at you. Trust me, this is grounds for a divorce and to get csutody of your son. What is he going to wait for? One of his friends to rape you and hurt you?
GET OUT, GET OUT NOW, TAKE YOUR SON AND DO NOT LOOK BACK! HE LOVES HIMSELF AND HIS FRIENDS-SCREW YOU AND HIS SON, THAT IS HOW HE IS!!!
Please, take heed to this.
2006-12-25 09:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww. I feel for you. I know what your saying. I don't feel that security element with my husband either. But, I do think he would tell his friend off if he were hitting on me. Your husband sounds like he's just so sure that you won't do anything or that his friend is harmless. And, he may be but to you he intimidates you and makes you uncomfortable. It's time for your husband to man up and be an example for your son as a good role model of a husband for his wife . Hope you get some happiness.
2006-12-25 09:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has no back bone , sorry to tell u that but he doesn't sound like a supporting husband , u need to have a long talk with him and keep talking till he gets it before u decide to walk out , but some man don't stand up to their family
2006-12-25 09:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by amal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is more......like a stupid to me. He doesn't even give you a hug when you cry? he is ignorant and selfish you should not be with this kind of person. Save some money and get out.............
You and your son better off with out this man
2006-12-25 09:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Settling. That is all you are doing. A man that loves his wife, doesn't behave in such a manner. You made a mistake. Think about it......
2006-12-25 09:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by prettysexycalves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA!
What a question to ask AFTER the ''I Do's''!!
FYI
It's animalistic to protect your ''young'' aka children, not spouse!
2006-12-25 09:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget reading the whole story....
IF IN DOUBT, GET THE F*** OUT
2006-12-25 09:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by marisa_g1rl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Every man is afraid of something. That's how you know if he is in love with you, when he is afraid of losing you."
2006-12-25 17:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋