we're not happy, a divorce is inevitable ! but how do you let go when you know its over ?

Answer 1

If you both know for a fact that the relationship isn't worth working on, then it should be easy to let go. Consider how much happier you would be if you freed yourself from the stress and pain of a weak relationship. Try to speak to your spouse so that the divorce is done amicably. You might even gain a lifelong friend in the process.

Good Luck!!

Answer 2

You can't be happy all the time - married or not. What is it that makes you this way? Are you unhappy with each other - has one of you betrayed the other? unhappy with your jobs and bringing it home? unhappy because you don't know what the other wants?

Truth is.. you had to have had some happy times in your marriage. Remember what that was that brought you two together as a couple and work from there.

It's a bit selfish and irresponsible to throw out a marriage when you both made a committment to spend the rest of your lives together.

Answer 3

I've been there. It was hard and we stayed together longer than we should have. I just did it one day - I left and didn't look back. I moved in with my sister and her family. He wouldn't call their house, and when he called my cell I didn't answer - but I kept it turned off most of the time so I was not tempted. I had a co-worker answer my phone at work and "screen" my calls for about the first week. I just knew if I heard his voice I would run back to him. I'm not gonna lie to you - it was freakin' hard! Very hard - and there were days that it hurt more than others. But five years later, I can sit here and tell you all of this and not even get a tear in my eye. I can now see how being miserable with him made me be miserable towards everyone else.

Answer 4

When is it over? When a person is too selfish to change or accept another's flaws? What is marriage? It is a commitment NO MATTER WHAT. I think the problem with modern marriage is the fact that people are too selfish and too quick to call it quits. A marriage is a pretty big deal. Me and my husband have had a lot of problems, but we figure out how to work on them. Our marriage means everything. People will not be happy all of the time and it is a long road of ups and downs.
Things will get better.
Start talking.

Answer 5

Just from reading your statement I don't think it's over. If you have to ask ''how to''......................it ain't over yet!

Maybe you two need prayer, spiritual counseling, a little time apart, etc. Divorce is not always the answer. Sometimes couples need time apart to realize how much they love, need, and most of all respect each other's place in the marriage.

Think it over.

Answer 6

Just figure you're in for a couple years of very bad roads. It's the worst thing I've ever gone through. Grieve, grieve, grieve and get into a newly singles recover program.

Answer 7

You just do it! You need to talk to the other person and tell them we're not happy and we need to move on with our lives.

Listen you only have one life and you need to enjoy your time if it's being alone to discover yourself or with others. But being in a relationship that your loveless it's depressing and it starts to affect your spirit and mind.

Answer 8

Just think of the reason why it wouldn't work out.

Get yourself involved in other activities (work, sports, etc.) that'll take your mind off things that directly relates to him.

And just constantly remind yourself that there was a reason why it didn't work out so you wouldn't start regreting your decision for the wrong reasons.

Answer 9

you turn around and walk away, hell i even helped my ex pack, had everything at the door for him which was not easy in itself! lugging that furniture down winding stairs was not fun. let the other person go and you'll both be happier.

Answer 10

Talk to your partner, you wouldn't beleive the number of times they really don't have a clue, alot of times it's just the anger! But if it is .....walk..fast...and far...and don't look back,exs are exs for a reason. good luck