2006-12-25 08:34:39 · 13 answers · asked by Luna Love 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i assume that ur 100% sure that ur gay and have passed the phase were ur just curious and wondering.
first, you have to think of the reasons why you wish them to know that your gay in the first place. Is it so important for you to let them know where you stand in the sexual orientation even if it meant having to do "the talk" and going through alot of questions and possibly a headache... or is it just a way to prove urself and/or to give you more freedom and finally liberate you to be able to live your life exactly like how you would love to :openly and freely.
Second you must think of the right place and time,( if you still think they must know). Be ready to answer their questions that you expect to be asked (if your parents are religious, you'll have to educate urself and arm urself with texts and logic, if your parents are traditional you have to get them from the emotional way and use their affection to you as a tool to make them accept it. even though its not clean, it works)
Offer facts and be clear as how gay you are. if that includes crossdressing.. or wanting or thinking about changing ur gendre.. or if u want everything normal just having a partner.. i dont know exactly just explain ur type exactly.
after all that ur parents may or may not like it. they may not speak to u..or may be extremlt supportive . either ways, remember that life is too short to not live the way u want to.
some parents may think it's their fault... make clear the reasons why you are gay and what you expect from them (to stop introducing u to girls..or pushing u to have kids.. to stop annoying u..to support u..whatever u need).
give them time to get used to it. some parents take it harder than others.
2006-12-25 08:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are they know already. Mine did and it came as no surprise when I told them. But how to tell them? That can be a difficult decision for some. It depends largely on how well you think your parents will handle the news. If they're apt to be apoplectic then it's a secret you should keep to yourself and your dearest friends. If, on the other hand, you come from an upper middle class liberal-minded family from Massachusetts as I did, your parents will be cool with it. You've got to decide the How To part. And the IF part too. There are no right or wrong answers. Just pay no attention to the folks who're being cute or religious.
2006-12-25 09:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a book on it. There are a ton out there! Then, take a deep breath, and say 'Hey mom, I have something that's kinda importiant to tell you, could we sit down?" And just say it. It's gonna come out sooner or later, why not make it sooner? I would also tell them seprate, it's easier to quiet one set of fears at a time then two. This will also prevent you from feeling like you are being 'ganged up on'.
2006-12-25 10:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by TiGeR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your parents. You know how to talk to them better than anyone else. If you have siblings, tell them first and use them as a sounding board. Then be honest with yourself and your parents. If you're sure that they won't freak out on you, tell them. You could watch "Coming out Stories" on LoGos.com for inspiration as well.
2006-12-25 09:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by Aoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carefully, if you still live at home. Test the waters. If you're nervous, wait till you move out. Talk to pflag.org about support telling your folks and information and support for them. A wonderful supportive group nationwide.
2006-12-25 09:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by reme_1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i assume it relies upon. in case you already know for a actuality that your mothers and fathers won't settle for it nicely, then it may be greater useful to attend till you're out on your person again out. some people get kicked out of their domicile or disowned via relatives by using fact they're gay. it somewhat is sweet to tell your mothers and fathers, although. they could love and settle for you for precisely who you're. Deep down, no rely what, they love you. For me, it replaced into greater useful for me to tell my mothers and fathers that i'm bi extremely than gay, even although i in my opinion am bisexual to a pair degree. They see it as there continues to be an excellent gamble i'm going to wind up with a guy. i like that i do no longer could sneak around. i do no longer could communicate softly approximately females. i can brazenly communicate approximately my female pal, and that i like with the flexibility to try this. they won't like the reality that i like females in that way, yet they're attempting to enable me do what i choose for to do, and that incorporates being with my female pal.
2016-10-18 23:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as for you if your gay wait till its a good time when they are happy then sit them down ant come clean and tell them there shouldent be a problem if so explain to them why u are this way and work out a plan with them.
2006-12-25 14:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by brittcarv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one day when you feel comfortable you will find your own way..no one can tell you how it will just come to you and youll be terrified of their reaction but im sure if your comfy with yourself youll be ok
2006-12-25 12:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by stormyheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the phone when you have moved out. I knew a boy that was shot by his Baptist mother. Shot Dead when she found out about him.
2006-12-25 08:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have sex with your significant other with your bedroom door open while your parents are home.
2006-12-25 09:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋