i am pissed off with this internet dating agency i joined, i have met some horrible men on their and i don,t know why bover anymore i wonder how many more men are horrible. its not easy meeting a single man in his forties and fifties.
2006-12-25 07:56:17 · 22 answers · asked by denise g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-12-28 01:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I didn't realise how thick skinned you have to be.
Guys I have come across seem to fall into two categories:-
1. Men who used to spend a lot of time at home and who do not seem to interact easily may now spend a lot of time at home on the internet sites, used to be known as 'anoraks'. (This does not apply to all guys on these sites).
The second type seem to mostly married or recently seperated men over the last couple of years or those coming out of long term relationships who are either looking for a woman to make their ex jealous or to simply start dating again. Internet dating seems to be the first stop.
I guess without a filtering system or interviewing people before joining you could be mailing anyone because so many guys (and I am sure this applies to women too) seem to lie (eg 5'6" not 6') Also some tend to attach photos which are nothing like the person when you meet them (eg 3 stone heavier in person without hair and 10 years older).
I have heard it works both ways with guys who are looking for women on the internet, so I hope I don't sound too biased.
Most people I have spoken to about it, tried it and then ran a mile. They met so many weirdos. Saying that, it does seem to work for some people. What is the answer??? I have given it a break for now after meeting quite a few real 'weirdos' who seemed perfectly normal on paper and even on the phone but as soon as we met I cringed.... I am sure some of them cringed at me too, who knows! I guess you cannot account for chemistry and you really need to 'meet' before you know if you even want to get to know a person first......
2006-12-25 17:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men of the age group you are speaking of are horrible-granted that there are a few "bad apples" on the net dating agency's, but you will get that "off" the net too! So dont despair, there are genuine, decent single blokes out there...of all ages who are easy to meet, seek and ye shall find, whether on-or off the net!! And CAMADIDA...you are soooo wrong-please do not judge older men on your bad experiences-you chose these planks, not us-be a tad more choosey next time...not all single men of 40/45/50 plus just want sex you know!!
2006-12-26 07:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
with out knowing your stories I am afraid to say to much. I think the best thing that was ever invented was that delete button.
I have been dating on the Internet for seven years.....I have lots of horror stories I am sure we could write a great book,,comical too.
I have recently met a man in his mid 40's,,,I am 38 in January. He is wonderful. A couple years ago I wrote "what I expect"....I wrote a recipe for a partner....I finally found him.
Perhaps try writing down what you want,,,then start clicking again on the net....much better than getting set up on blind dates from friends or the "bar"....Perhaps change your dating site. I am (or was I am hidden for the time being) on Match.com. I looked only at profiles that had 20 or more out of 24 I think things in common with me. I was have been very very picky....and it finally has worked.
Good luck and do not ever give up hope,, that is the most important thing.
2006-12-25 16:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet dating agencies are a con, don't let them make you lose confidence in yourself, I wouldn't trust a man as far as I could throw him if he joined one of those because they are probably only looking for sex. There are plenty of men around in their 40s and 50s who are genuine and looking for partnership, keep your money and just go out and enjoy yourself.
2006-12-25 16:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely get out to meet someone,i think it would be a chance in a million meeting someone decent on the net,good luck anyway
2006-12-25 16:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
internet agencies are a waste of time,you stand more of a chance meeting the right person in your local pub,not met any body yet myself but i keep trying...age 44 male
2006-12-25 16:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must have spent the money on MATCH.com. I didn't have any luck with them either. Hopefully you only bought 1 month and didn't spend the $150 or so for the year membership.
2006-12-25 16:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure ! Men in their 50s and 40s only want to sleep around, I answered many ads, horrible experiences....
2006-12-26 06:36:51 · answer #9 · answered by camadida 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try going out and meeting nice young men instead of meeting old men on the net
2006-12-25 17:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good & Bad in both & works vice versa, try your local cafes when someone is genuinely interested they don`t just think of the number one thing.
2006-12-26 15:35:38 · answer #11 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋