Interracial dating question?

Question

Why goes through the minds of people who limit their definition of beauty to a race that is not their own?

I don't have a problem with interracial dating that is based on true love or based on genuine attraction that has nothing to do with the other persons race.

But If you are going to limit your definition of beauty to one race, then why don't you limit yourself to your own race? To limit yourself to another race shows that you have self identity issues. To limit yourself to a race that is not your own is like saying "there is no such thing as an attractive man/woman in my own race".

In my opinion you should not define beauty by race(I've dated Asian, white and black guys), but if you are going to define it by race then surely you should define it by your own race.

Answer 1

As I say it beauty has no race or color its just has to deal with beauty is in the eyes of the beholder

Answer 2

Change the word why into what please.This makes no sense.
Happy that you could use this page for venting your own frustration?
This question does not even belong here.It is not even a question.
Next time put it where all the weird questions(yours is not even a question.)are posted :polls and surveys.All the kids there would love to answer yours.
To answer you:i see no races:i see people,unlike you:you got them neatly in boxes.
Well I don't do that all.
People from all over the world can be attractive or not.
And about your issues about self identity(where did you dig up such nonsense),you must really be pissed of with somebody.
I got none:you need a list who i dated and where they came from:no way .I only know that i care for or love a person for their personality and if that happens to be someone outside my race(ugly word)so be it.You use the word race a lot,are you a racist maybe?Without knowing it yourself?
I use the term people if you don/t mind.
I had boyfriends pretty much from all over the globe even some from my own country:happy now,????
And stop calling the word race like they are aliens please.you sound nasty to me:
Rob.xxxx
I can rant tooooooooooooo.

Answer 3

If you really like a person, color or nationality shouldn't get in the way. But the again, interracial dating may be a problem due to the family members. Some family members may criticize on your choice of dating. My view: My view doesn't matter, interracial dating should be viewed by the people in the relationship, not the onseers.

Answer 4

Honestly,there isn't always an answer to why some people date this or that race, or don't date within their own race. To me it's the same as asking, why are people gay? Why do people limit themselves to just women, or just men, why not both etc? People are attracted to who they are attracted to. If a white women is only attracted to black men, it doesn't mean they have identity issues, it can mean they only like black men. It doesn't mean they think all men of their own race are ugly, it means they couldn't imagine themselves in a relationship with that person. Finding someone beautiful and actually being attracted to them are two different things.

I don't think people should limit themselves to certain races, as I could care less which race I date, but to say that if one does only find one race attractive in "that way", there is something wrong with them, is ignorant. To say that they think everyone in their race is not attractive is also ignorant. I could spin that statement and say, to limit yourself to your own race is like saying, "only my race is attractive". I think people over analyze these things too much. I agree, that beauty shouldn't be based on race, but just because you don't want to date someone doesn't mean you can't think they are beautiful. Beauty and sexual attractions can be separate.

Answer 5

Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Often times, people date outside of their own race due to socioeconomic factors. I was reading an interview in Rolling Stone about a black celeb that only dates white women, but says that when he is ready to settle down and have children he will definitely do so with a black woman. He said right now it was difficult for him to find other black women in his "circle." I can understand that...It's sort of like striking it rich and then expecting your best friend, who's still poor, to be able to keep up with you and go eat, shop or vacation at the same places you do. Sometimes it's not about "limiting yourself to one specific race" but it's about what's convenient for "right now." In a perfect world, we would all be open to each other, irregardless of race. But alot of issues are at play. So what if a person prefers dating a white, black, or Latino person? Is it so different from someone who prefers blondes or brunettes? Or has a preference for tall people or straight teeth? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Answer 6

Probably cause of their experience with their own race vs. other race experiences. There's a cause and an effect to all things. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Having an opposite of you often does attract. So to say one limits themselves to something or someone is all a personal choice to make ourselves happy.

Answer 7

I agree wholeheartedly with person who typed this question.

I find it absolutely baffling when I go to a dating site and some White girl's profile says "Black men only; White men need not apply" or something similar. Occasionally you will see Asian women who will only date White men, Hispanic women who will only date White men, etc.

I've noticed that you don't see too many men who refused to date inside their own race...maybe that's because men will screw anything, lol...

But anyway, to me at least, women who refuse to date men of their own race are utterly disgusting.

Answer 8

There is beauty in all races as you personally know. Unfortunately not all realise this.

I know of several interacial marriages. My husband's first marriage was to a Korean. They were tore apart by cultural differences. However some manage to keep together even with the cultural differences.

My first husband was very handsome but we had religious differences and educational differences. My second husband is not handsome but I find him very comfortable and we have the same education and we like the same things. We have only had one quarrel in 24 years.

My daughter has dated some Asians and I have no problem with it.

Answer 9

Man created the word "race". When God speaks of us humans he calls us all "man".
So, there is your answer. Do what you feel is right with any people of any "race".
Skin color is just that. We are still "man".
Make any sense? You'll be fine if you can learn to get beyond the stereotypes in life and see everyone as a "man", not some "color" or "race".

Answer 10

All I can say is this is the 23rd Xmas I have not seen my mother cause shes mad that I married a all white girl. My Mother and father are mixed. Not ain't that stupid. White people are not the only bigots.