Is this the right decision.?

Question

I've kind of come to the conclusion that this is really the right thing for me to do. I'm not exactly happy about it. I'm a senior in high school, and decided last year I was going to try to make new friends the next year. But I feel like I've blown all my chances and I'm depressed and half the time I don't even want to be with people anymore. And I feel like there are two groups that I like that don't like each other and I don't want to get caught up in that. I want to be above that So I think I'll just keep to myself for the rest of the year and not try to make friends anymore. Is this a good decision?

Answer 1

I don't think closing yourself off to the world and other people is a good idea. By doing that you are going to make yourself increasingly depressed. This will not really put you 'above' anything either.

If you want to be 'above' this fight between the groups, the best thing to do would be what I assume you've been doing up until now - being friends with both. If one of the groups says something about the other group, just act mature about it, don't get involved, just listen. Don't take sides or say something about one group just cause you're hanging out with the other. Make it clear that the people in the other group are your friends too. If the people in these groups are really your friends they won't care if your friends with the other.

Also this is your senior year. My biggest regret about highschool was that I didn't get to know people better. If you close yourself off from people you'll probably regret that in the end. If you do your best to be the best friend you can be to people despite difficult, petty and immature circumstances I doubt you'll regret that and you might even keep some of those friends well beyond highschool.

Once you get out into the real world people rarely care who your friends with anymore. Just do your best for the next five or six months. You can't change the highschool attitude but you can do your best not to perpetuate it.

Answer 2

That is the worst and most miserable decision you could ever make! It is always better to make friends than to be alone. And sometimes, when two groups are not getting along, all it takes is for one person to be really good friends with a few people in each group. You can never blow all of your chances because no matter how many chances you blow, you can always create more. The thing is, you should not feel responsible for someone not making friends with you or with each other.

But let me say this: Be your own best friend, first. If you are happy with yourself, people will want to be with you. Just as you would like to be with someone who is always smiling and cheerful, so would everyone else. It is very hard to seem cheerful when everything is going wrong. But try. And you will see that things will change. Feel free tow rite me again, if they don't :-)

Answer 3

If you try too hard, you'll fail at anything. The best thing to do is just be you - try to simply get to know and understand other people, and they'll see that you're interested in knowing them. If they open up and let you in, you've made friends; otherwise, they're not worth your time. And as for the two groups, if they'd drag you into their problems like that and force you into the middle of their crap, they're not worth your time because they only care about themselves. A real friend would sooner put aside their grudges and problems with another person while with you if you're a friend to both than end up putting you in the middle of something that doesn't involve you.

Answer 4

If U like staying alone then Be it.. If U don't then don't give a damm abt anything.. Just Go out there & Make Friends.. U have come to Live ur Life once, why waste it for some silly reasons..

Answer 5

Absolutley a good decision. I never tried to make friend s with anyone. I lived being happy with who i was. glad to not follow a crowd and be a mindless sheep like all the others.

Find yourself by being by yourself and Love yourself by doing things You love , have Your OWN mind.

And believe it or not, you might find some sheep wanting to follow you instead of you following them.

Answer 6

its not that great of a decision serniior year is supposed to be fun you dont wanna ruin it by not talking to anyone youve gotta have some one to confide w/maybe ull meet some people ull really like this year dont give up yet senior years great

Answer 7

I WAS LIKE YOU, DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. I CHOSE 1 FRIEND AND STAYED OUT OF THE CLICK AND AM HAPPY WITH THAT DECISSION, I STILL DO THIS IN MY JOB, I DON'T GO TO THE WORK PARTIES CUZ ITS ALL B.S. GAMES AND I HATE THAT. IT DOESN'T EFFECT HOW PEOPLE LIKE ME CUZ I AM STILL REALLY FRIENDLY TO EVERYONE. YOU CAN BE A LONER WITHOUT BEING A JERK. GO FOR IT!

Answer 8

if its ur senior year..who cares?? try and make new friends...go all out and just have fun.. ur not gonna see these people until ur class reunion...if u take chances people might not accept it...then u can can just say "**** you" i dont need u ne way...