Today is x-mas and my friend wife called me on my cell phone telling me that she is his wife and all that ****, any how he has really hurt my feelings but what should i do, i havent talked to him, so i don't think that he know what happened this morning
2006-12-25 06:58:52 · 28 answers · asked by lesa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do? Nothing. Forget the jerk, and feel sorry for his family- AND him. He is to be pitied.
2006-12-25 08:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I don't wanna seem rude, but r u listening to yourself? He is the one who lied and cheated you in one of the worst ways possible, and yet you keep worrying about what do do, in case he doesn't know what happened this morning??? Just wait and think for a sec: my question is WHAT IS STILL TO TALK? Look, I have always liked exact science and I I truelly believe that now is the time to think straight. So let's assume you talk to him and tell him about the incident this morning. What could happen?
1. He denies the woman who called you is really his wife. Who would you believe? Him, of course, because it is clear that u have feelings for him. But even though you will choose to believe him, do you think the doubt will be completely eliminated? My guess is that it won't. And Nnw think: what kind of relationship will it be from now on?
2. He admitts having a wife and that their relationship is getting worse by the minute. What will u do then? Choose to believe him and go on with it, therefore accepting a compromise that can only get you from bad to wost?
3. He admits having a wife and that what you had means nothing...NO comment here!...
OK...these are the 3 situations you have to analyze. BUt if u want my opinion, a man who does this kind of things doesn't deseve a "last conversation" before break up...
I hope this will help you decide about your problem and don't forget: LIFE GOES ON, no mater of the decision u take! :)
2006-12-25 15:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Ciumpirik 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too agree with many statements already listed.
You did not know he was married, yet where did you call him? Where did he live? Did he ever take you to his home? Did you ever see his mom, sisters, family? Did you take a vacation together.
Come on....three months, that is not too long. Men can lie about many things (mine did) and it does not seem to affect their consciousness or heart. He knew he was lying to 2 honest women. I feel for you hun. You did not deserve to be treated like this. Did he lie to his kids too? You can be mad at him. Do not need to be mad at the wife. She was duped too.
If she called you today, maybe she KNEW for awhile and planned it. I bet he will not contact you for awhile. I hope not, but if he does...he may be narcissist in behavior and think the world revolves around only him (and his sexual needs).
My suggestion: get some girlfriends to go shopping, call someone, get you a date for new years or to a party....or just go out and try, try, TRY to put him in the back of your mind. He is a rat----DON'T even give him cheese.
If he wants a future with you, you will know then. Yet, take a good look at his character
for now.
You deserve a honest, nice, considerate man.
Not a lying ***hole! {oops my bad} hope it helps.
2006-12-25 16:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by strong1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that he did not give her your phone number? How coincidental is this to happen on Christmas. I mean really. Sounds to me like he got caught and spilled the beans. Pretty stupid guy. Something you need to think about is this, "Your not his first affair and you won't be his last." Plain and simple the guy is a dick. This is no reflection on you. You say you didn't know. So what you need to do is, kick that dog to the curb. And change your phone number. His wife is aware that he is a cheater. Also, you don't think he knows, come on please. He is a manipulator. You shouldn't care one way or the other how he feels or if he knows what happened.
2006-12-25 15:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and don't accuse him of anything, just say that a woman called you said she was his wife, see what he says and go from there. It might be his ex-wife or someone he is seperated from. If he really does have a wife then get far, far away from him. You probably don't want to be involved in that.
2006-12-25 15:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by Eric G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this tells You what he is REALLY like.
If he treats his wife like this by cheatin on her etc. then how does he think of you and how do you think he will eventually treat You.
This , is a Major sign that he is just using you as a Fling to have fun with , if ya know what i mean.
And if you do Not see this and leave him, then you must not love yourself as much as you deserve to .
2006-12-25 15:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by stuart_slider 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. He led you on for months. You deserve better!
Married men never leave their wives, and if they do, the cheating relationship never works out. You are hitting your head against a brick wall. There is no future in your relationship. Take it from someone who knows.
You do not have to settle for second-best or second -choice, nor should you settle for leftover crumbs!!
2006-12-25 16:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't worth it. If he's married and cheating on her, and he's also cheating on you because he didn't tell you about her. When he calls you next, tell him to go call his wife and leave you alone.
It isn't worth the heart ache, and he'll probably say some junk about how he likes you more and wants to leave her, but really, it's just lies and not worth it. Just leave him now before you get way too attached.
2006-12-25 15:09:22 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call him and tell him you know he is married. Afterwords, gather anything of his you have and tell his wife to come get it. Talk to her and if she can get past you being the other woman explain the situation as thoroughly as you can.
Stop all contact with this guy.
2006-12-25 15:02:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him, let know what has happened, then let him go, and DO NOT get involved with a married man ever again, unless that man is married to YOU!!!
2006-12-25 15:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In 3 mos. you should have figured it out on your own! Tell him you know he's married because someone told you and drop him immediately unless he can prove otherwise. And this time check out for yourself the facts.
2006-12-25 15:04:51 · answer #11 · answered by Raven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋