2006-12-25 06:52:28 · 11 answers · asked by neutral 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, ONLY if the father lets it happen!!! If the father is still loving, caring, and checks on his children very often after the divorce, asks his children about life and school and such, then it's almost impossible for his children to have hard feelings against such a father.... As for GROWN adult children, I wanna say that the mature ones would merely try to be more lying towards their fathers; not lose contact with him!
So, if you're a divorced father, make sure you check on your children quite frequently and show them that you love and care for them. As long as you continue doing that, they'll not have any hard feelings for you or wanna lose touch with you.
2006-12-25 06:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by ♡♥ sHaNu ♥♡ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's each to their own, darling! I have 2 Children - seperated 4 years ago. Their Father found a new Parner and had their first baby together a year ago and now she is pregnant with the next one (I should point out that I am in a happy relationship and also intend on having more Chldren - my Children from that relationship are in my care). My point being is that for some reason, when my ex had the 1st baby, he seemed to loose interest in my Boys. Slowly but surely, the contact ceased all together. It can have such an effect on the Children. Some of these Parent's do not see that. My eldest (he is 7) has been to councelling and that helped some what but nothing will replace the fact that his Father no longer wants to have contact with him because he seems to have better things to do with his time. It makes me SO angry that parents can do this to their Children. I could never do that to my kids... never.
2016-05-23 06:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the behaviour of the father during the children's formative years. If you loved and treated their mother with the proper respect, the answer is a definite no. Children will always love their parents even if a divorce occurred. The best thing that you can do is be a great example in every way that you can and maintain an on-going relationship with them throughout their lives. You know what is said out there: "out of sight, out of mind."
So, be around in person, letter, or some other form of communication. The boys will need you to show them what is like to be a man and how to make their way in life. The girls will need you to learn to interact with men in the world and as an example of what a true man is supposed to be. Be honest, open, and do not be afraid to be imperfect. After all, they look up to you, even after a divorce.
If you need further help with this subject I highly advise that you begin to attend a good church and intermingle with the men there. The church is all about the healthy family and will prove to be a great source of information and support in any area of life.
Cheers,
Mr. M on "love for their father."
2006-12-25 07:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that all depends on the relationship the father had with his children after the divorce. If the child can see the father loved him or her throughout their life, there shouldn't be a problem. But if he didn't fight to see his children and maintain their relationship, he doesn't deserve the love of that child.
2006-12-25 06:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by ElizaBella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if he is a good father and remains a part of their lives and lets them know in no uncertain terms that they are loved and treasured, even if it is inconvienient for him. Never use the excuse "that they dont live with you", As a way to get out of being a parent.
2006-12-25 08:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly its due to the father not keeping in contact with the children. Especially if they are not around much during the younger years, when we grow older your kinda like screw him!
2006-12-25 06:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by miaalyse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just if you allow your relationship with them fall apart.It is hard for a divorced father try to have a normal relationship with their kids doesn't matter what the circumstances.First of all because they listen to the mother's complain about how bad you are ,you abandon your family and bla,bla,bla,second of all you can't spend as much time you want with them,so if you don't work hard and try not to loose contact with them you will always have their love and understanding.
2006-12-25 07:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by realistic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents divorced before I was born, dad showed up regularly till I was 8, maybe he is just busy and doesn't have time, I turned 19 yesterday but he didn't call, I do not think that I have a father
2006-12-25 06:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by Yulia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the reason for the divorce. If it was for cheating and leaving for another woman and perhaps her children. statistics show they won't have respect for him as adults in their own relationships and realizing how painful that must have been for their mother and how unfair to them for him to go make another family.
2006-12-25 06:57:36 · answer #9 · answered by Raven 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Remember that YOU are the parent, it's your job to stay in their lives and stay in contact with them. Not the other way around.
2006-12-25 06:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋