Offered a night out with husband and his friends..
...i organised babysister, however would have to arrive late to the party and leave early, so he wasnt prepared to wait late or leave early, so i asked if it was ok to take kids along to party at house, friend said yes, but when friend turned up, he left without me. What shall i do about this, i can't just turn up to party now, as i was his guest.
I cant turn up now cause he cancelled babysister for me. And i have no money to get a taxi down there, as he has the money.
Should i get my own back and spend a good wack on our savings on a new wardrobe for new year on me...! Its no skin off my back.
2006-12-25 06:15:38 · 10 answers · asked by lonely as a cloud 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to him first. if he dismisses it casuasly and doesnt take you seriously then by all means buy yourself a new wardrobe. at least then u can say u tried!
2006-12-25 06:19:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with a couple of responses: 1) common law = "you're not who I want to marry"? Is this right; and, 2) you trained him to treat you this way and wallaaah, he does it and you're confused about this.
Bottom line, you don't deserve this, apparently, and he does it anyway.... so, I would have a discussion about the issue and if he shows no remorse, your relationship is on its' last throws and barely breathing. If there is concern and a change in behavior, you have something to work with. On the other hand, is there anything you may have done over time that would warrant this behavior on his part? You have to look at your end too, ya know.
By the way, the "it's no skin off my back" comment suggests a hardening of the heart on your part, which is not a good sign. My guess, based on the question and info is that each of you have contributed to the deterioration in the relationship and neither is willing to look within but both are looking at the other in utter disbelief.
2006-12-25 06:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like leaving with out you was just a symptom of some deeper underlying problems in you relationship with him. Let's examine what you yourself wrote. First, he is your"common-law husband" like maybe you can bear his kids but he hasn't committed all the way...you/him/both? You then set up arrangements for child care, took a back seat on this occasion because YOU and YOU alone were left to be the one handling all the pain in the but things. It sounds like maybe you were "trying to hard." So then you get left in an embarrassing situation, which only gets more uncomfortable, no babysitter, no money, had to get there late, and etc...whew! It worked me out just reading about it.
As for the savings...do raid it, but I suggest to start saving at least a portion for you much needed Mad Money account. Get get stuck like this again is my take on this. I am not judging, I am just saying. Try to have a Merry Christmas...Get you common-law hubby a lump of coal for Christmas
2006-12-25 06:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by JOHN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I answered this question already.
You say that it is OK to take the kids, so take them. Turn up and he can pay for the cab when you arrive, you don't have to pay for cabs in advance only when you get there.
Of course you can turn up if you were both invited in the first place.
This bloke sounds like a right w.....er
2006-12-25 06:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Common Law Husband" is another way of saying *I got a man that doesn't want to commit to me*.
What you
Just a thought...
2006-12-25 06:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by I Think 4 Me 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
New years is just around the corner. You should be able to come up with something by then and, maybe screw things up where he cannot go. Tell him he needs to stay with the children since he so graciously omitted you from the last party.
2006-12-25 07:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey sack him for xmas
phone party host tell him his sacks r on ur doorstep, hey ho, no way would i put up with that, im at wok now for an hr or 2 an then ill meet up with my old man n party with friends, xmas is for the ones u love, guess u just found out ur not so loved, sorry love xxxx mwahhhh we all lubbs u xxxxxxxxx
2006-12-25 06:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Told you before, sod him! Get some friends to come over, get wasted, and deprive him for a week!!
2006-12-25 06:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont retaliate cos he had his reasons, even alchohol.
2006-12-25 06:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by frankmilano610 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
penalty.no sex for 12 days.
2006-12-25 06:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by yiannis the greek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋