whats your advice coz i just want to leave her although i dont wanna hurt her feelings. she cant open coz she wants to be sure that ill marry her, whats your advice?
2006-12-25 06:04:09 · 22 answers · asked by leo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do something before you are married..If you have these feelings before marriage then please do your self a favor and break up with her or at least tell her how you feel so that both of you can explore the possibilities out there..Before marriage is suppose to be some of the happiest times in your relationship so that when you go through hard times, which you will you can look back on the times that made you so in love with her and her for you..
2006-12-25 06:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, forget about not hurting her ....."I just want to leave her although I don't wanna hurt her feelings".
Sorry, can't be done. If she cares, she'll be hurt. But for christ sake have the moral fortitude to tell her, and not already begin to cheat, geez..... Just sit her down, have a nice little talk, (Or phone her)and say, "I'm sorry.... I cannot see that this relationship has a future. I care very much for you, and I know you are thinking marriage. I have realized that I am not a candidate for you husband. I think we should each separate, and get on with our lives... I don't know any other way to tell you.... and to continue this longer would only hurt you more. I wish always to be your friend..." Call her if you want, but don't e-mail --- sleezy. Be a man of class and don't start searching until you no longer have a committment to this lady. And then, don't keep showing up in her life... as if to rub it in her nose....... Mean it, or don't say it....
2006-12-25 14:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all dont cheat on her talk to her. so she wants marrige? so what all girls do some day. i had the same issue with my man he never wanted to get married and we have to kids together. so it got to the point that i said i was leaving. and now we are married and very happy. i really think you should think about what you are doing before you do anything, you say that you dont wanna hurt her but you are willing to cheat. if you ask me that would count as hurting her, maybe even more that if you were to break up with her, because all cheating is gonna do is make her feel like she wasnt enough.
2006-12-25 14:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is clear to me that this relationship has lost both you and her and has become a like a boil waiting to fester. It is over emotionally. All that is left is going thru the motions. There isn't any shred of happiness in all you wrote.
My advice is just end it. Slay the monster while it is small. Don't give in to being a loser by cheating on her, because if you do you are really selling your self short. Why constrain your life by trying to move on in dishonesty that will eventually become your calling card. I suggest you climb down off that cross, use the wood to build a bridge, and get over it!!!!!!!!! Good luck. And remember you gotta wake up in the morning and look in the mirror
2006-12-25 14:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by JOHN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat on her just tell her you are not happy in the relationship and you are ending it. You say you don't want to hurt her, what do you think you will do if you cheat on her? You sound like you just want the best of both worlds. Give her the chance as soon as possible to find a true man.
2006-12-25 16:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy in your relationship then end it. You should never cheat on someone. The whole reason people cheat in my mind is because they're not happy and the other person isn't doing it for them. It is better to end the relationship no matter what, because it isn't nice or fair to string along someone.
If your not happy then break it off and start over. It's going to hurt her much less if you break it off than if you cheat and she catches you.
2006-12-25 15:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the reason you don't want to break up with her is that you're afraid she would find someone better than you. I suggest you break up with you because when she finds out you've been cheating she is going to be hurt worse. If you want to cheat don't get involved in a relationship.
2006-12-25 14:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry her then cheat.. She get's Half of everything. Your better off hurting her now, then to marry her and hurt her later. Plus even if you don't marry her and you cheat and she finds out. That's much worse. Dump her....
2006-12-25 14:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what the problem is and leave. Cheating is wrong so just do the right thing and get this over.
2006-12-25 14:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel that you are cheating your GF? Do you have any intimate relationship with any other girl? If you are not committed with her for a lifetime how could you have touched her? Once you commit yourself to her how how can you leave her. Think yoursellf. I hope you are in true love. Please try to know the value of relationship.
2006-12-25 14:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by RAJESH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋