Husband off to christmas party, without waiting for me?

Question

Offered a night out with husband and his friends..
...i organised babysister, however would have to arrive late to the party and leave early, so he wasnt prepared to wait late or leave early, so i asked if it was ok to take kids along to party at house, friend said yes, but when friend turned up, he left without me. What shall i do about this, i can't just trun up to party now, as i was his guest.

*spelling correction - turn

I cant turn up now cause he cancelled babysister for me. And i have no money to get a taxi down there, as he has the money.

Answer 1

Okay, so I will be the only one to ask this, I am sure. Just why does he have to accomodate you and your schedule? Now, it may not be the case with you, but with many, many women, it is always the man waiting or accomodating the schedule of the women. Frankly, I have gotten to the point that if I said 10, at 10:02, you had better be in the car or you get left. Thats it. This is no more unfair then me saying 10 and you thinking that 10:20 should be fine. If you can have your schedule, why cannot he and others have theirs? How about instead of saying, should he wait, you ask yourself if you should speed up or start earlier?

It sounds like he did a lot to make sure you didnt have many options as far as the party, unless you went with him when he was ready. Again, maybe intentionally keeping you from it. It is however possible that he did this to teach you a lesson as well. Only way to know for sure is ask him and hope for the truth.

Remember, many times we think that the other person is unfair or mean in what they do, until we sit and really look at and consider what we do to them. If you will do this, you might find that often you are getting no worse then you give.

Answer 2

Could you phone them? And organise a lift, perhaps. Or, if you can phone, ask if somebody will pay for the taxi, and you will pay them back another time?
Get a taxi there and ask your husband to pay.
You can just turn up. You were invited.
I can only hope this is helpful in some way. Keep your spirits up and remember that what goes around, comes around.
Or, ignore the problem and do what you would like to do. TV,drink(not too much),read a book.

Answer 3

Phone your husband if he's got his mobile, if not then can you phone anyone else you think would be there and explain the situation, then if OK get a cab. I agree with John B about this, something just don't sound right, is there really a party or is hubby going out on the lash and a game of poker with his mates? Just one more thing, you can stil get a cab there and he can pay when you arrive. Good luck.

Answer 4

Are you for real. Your husband can't be this insensitive.

This goes so much against everything I stand for that it sounds phony. Why would he ever do this to you? What was he thinking?

If I pulled this on my wife I would expect to find my stuff on the lawn and be living in my own apartment. I would actually loose respect for her if she didn't.

I truly hope you are not telling the truth here or leaving some big thing out. This is unforgivable.

Answer 5

I believe a pair of responses: a million) common regulation = "you're no longer who i choose for to marry"? is this actual; and, 2) you experienced him to handle you this manner and wallaaah, he does it and you're at a loss for words approximately this. base line, you do no longer deserve this, curiously, and he does it besides.... so, i could have a communicate concerning the issue and if he shows no remorseful approximately, your courting is on its' final throws and somewhat respiratory. If there is issue and a transformation in habit, you have something to artwork with. on the different hand, is there something you have got finished over the years that could warrant this habit on his area? you ought to look at your end too, ya be attentive to. by employing the way, the "it incredibly isn't any epidermis off my back" remark shows a hardening of the coronary heart on your area, which isn't a good sign. My guess, based on the question and information is that each and every of you have contributed to the deterioration in the courting and neither is keen to look interior of yet the two are finding on the different in utter disbelief.

Answer 6

that sounds way dodgy. id be well annoyed if my boyfriend ever did anything so selfish. saying that he wouldnt dare.

maybe he just wants a night with the lads or maybe he is upto something else.
has he done anything else like this?

you really need to TALK to him (dont shout) about this when he sobers up. if he wont talk then he is probably feeling guilty and let it go.

if he does it again in the next few months i would start getting worried.

Answer 7

Yes why should´t you go , get a taxi and pay when you get there , I´ts Christmas for you too and your kids, go and have a good time and sort the problem out tomorrow, Merry Christmas

Answer 8

I'm sorry to say that it sounds like he really doesn't want you there...
Just stay home and be cool and don't give him a bunch of grief when he gets home. If you act like it didn't bother you, he may wonder what YOU are up to, putting the shoe on the other foot! Good luck!

Answer 9

you must be a winging moaner. why would your friends want your kids at there party? kids just get in the way and do everyones head in.
sort yourself out, stop moaning and make yourself someone he wants to be with.

Answer 10

Sounds like hubby needs a lesson in manners. I don't know what to tell you to do, but hubby is being selfish and that's NOT good.