How can you determine if someone is your soul mate and its not your head playing tricks on you?

Question

Their is this guy we have only known eachother for about 10 months..We only saw eachother everyday for the first 4 months then he had to move 7 hrs away.We still don't go a day with out talking. I know their are things about him that will make us bump heads a lot b/c we are both extremely stubborn. But other times I feel so close to him, like I can tell him anything.I keep a lot of things bottled up inside me and no one knows, but I have told him..I don't even know why!We have a very strong connection.We told eachother a bunch of times that we were not going to talk any more b/c it is the best thing for both of us given our situations, but we can not go longer than 2 weeks with out contacting eachother. I have never had this kind of a connection with any one before.
The thing that hurts the most is that I am married, but seperated. My X wants to work things out, and it is hard for me not to b/c of our child. I love my X, but I do not have this connection with him.

Answer 1

What has happened to you is you met someone on the re-bound. You lost your love and he comes along and you connect because you need someone to talk to so bad.

If you are alike and that involves tempers you best keep it a friendship. You say you still love your husband but just don't connect to him like this guy. Can't you see that it is the very reason you broke up. Communication is everything in a relationship. The more you both can open up and share your innermost thoughts the closer you will be.

I don't trust the idea of soul mate. A soul mate to me is someone you connect to in every way. Your very much alike and at times think alike. Nothing could not be shared between you and always is. But you have to know that a man and a women never ever think alike about almost anything. I am talking about emotion.
A man and women can come close but there is always a difference. You say you argue. That is all the proof you need.
When was the last time you had a real argument with your best friend?

If you love your husband...before you get back together begin counseling or at the very least have long talks with him. Try to connect to him, and he you, the way you did with this guy. A rebound romance can be very strong....VERY. But it is never a good thing in the long run.

Answer 2

You need to understand that any guy can play nice or put on a show because they no what women want an that is attention, I dont no what went on with you an your husband but you dont connect with him because you choose not to, a relationship is what you make it but it takes 2 if not it will not work, I say give your husband a chance and if it dont work out then you will both no but give it a real chance an if your not committed 2 trying then forget it, its a shame when all of us are going out an getting married having kids an then screwing up their life an all we can do is blame it on not having that spark no more, that spark is a new feeling which u get from a new person thats all I've had it lost it had it lost it, you no what to do so do it

Answer 3

Soul mates seem to connect on all levels without knowing each other well. You tend to know what the other thinks, sometimes even finishing each others sentences. You share the same life experiences from your past. If it is a powerful connection you can even send dreams to each other while apart. When you first meet your you soul mate there is feeling of being home finally. The best way to know is to look into their eyes deeply and you should feel the energy and chemistry between you two. The eyes are the window to the soul !!!

Answer 4

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This is probably not what you want to hear but before you move on you must first resolve your present situation
Let me explain, the things you tell this guy is what you should be telling your ex, you need to tell him how you feel, he is suppose to be your best friend not just your husband. If he doesn't like what he hears or responds negatively then you know in your heart you tried. The guy that you care about really has feeling for you he will wait until you and your husband are divorced before making a move on you, this way he wil know you will not cheat on him.
Think of all the reasons why you fell in love with your husband and think if he really out of your life. Children should feel secure in there family life they should not feel they are keeping their parents together, if there is no love and resolution the do what is best for you and the child. hopefully this helps.

Answer 5

You won't like this answer but it's the awful truth. You can't tell if this guy is your soulmate as long as you are still on tenterhooks with your husband. It is always difficult to tell if a guy is messing with your head but even more difficult if your thinking is impaired by stress from another relationship. The temptation is great to go ahead and get it on with what you think is your soulmate and it MIGHT work out OK but the odds are greatly against you. And the odds are greater against it working out if you get with him before you've settled things with your husband.

Answer 6

guy are like dog when they smell a girl dog in heat they move in everything great because they dont have to paid the bill or clean up after the kids all so you show you dont care about your married vow seek no other then your husband youre suppose to be commitment i sure he told you how right youre and how wrong your husband is my ex is just like you her ex boy friend came back and told her how unhappy she was any way i divorce her and i got kids and she left out in the cold and i hope he file to keep the kid and that way you can go be a booty call have fun

Answer 7

So, as I understand it, you want to dump your husband who has made a committment for a loser who can't committ to lunch? I say GO FOR IT. Your hubby will find someone a lot better.

Answer 8

Tell him you have a terminal disease. See if he sticks around.