Am I impotent? When masterbating my erection is pretty hard, but not when it comes to sex.?

Question

I do find my gf very hot and attractive, and she is very sexual (and now she's sexually frustrated). I get aroused around her pretty easily outside the bedroom though, even in a normal setting such as a supermarket. But I tend to "lose" it when I have to go through foreplay or getting her ready. Could it be psychological?

Answer 1

Dude there is nothing to worry about. Since you can maintain erection during masterbation then everything is cool. I have/had the same problem. Me and my gf haven't had sex in about a month bc of it, but we have a strong foundation so we can maintain our relationship. I suggest you stop watching porn, bc overexposure to porn can kill your libido, go easy on the cigarettes and alcohol, and when you masterbate think about your gf and your gf only, and play around more instead of actual penetration...good luck

Answer 2

Yep, it is largely your mind causing the problem. Between performance anxiety, worry about the venue and tryign to set the stage each time has your penis tied in a knot.

If you actually read what you wrote, you will easily observe it is the conventional that is causing you the problem. The 'bedroom' is the place for sex but in ther eyou do not perform. Yet when outside the bedroom, you say you are easily aroused and nicely erect.

My prescripotion is to designate the bedroom for sleeping and make the places for sex anywhere outside the bedroom you get turned on ahd your penis gets hard. After all, there are no rules against sex in the kitchen or living room or even in the yard (although the aisles in a supermarket might pose a problem - hehe). Feel free and enjoy sex; don't make it a bedroom ritual that requires that setting, the appointed time and the normal trappings of preparation., Instead make it totally spontaneous; do it whenever and whereever the mood is right and at the time the mood strikes. Be wild, be creative and have a blast.

Oh, and while foreplay is important, it is also to be creative and fn not a performed rite prior to passage. I've had some of my best foreplay in all sorts of places with, on occasion, a prop or two that are nothing more than 'safe' objects at hand. also positions for sex are not important as long as their is intimacy, contact fo the 'right' parts and lots of fun. So while you cna always do the 'sex' lying in bed with you on toip, who says you cannotdo it in the rocker recliner in the living room with her assuming the dominant position. Or how about standing in the kitchen. Even thought of doing it while she has your back pressed against a tree in the yard or better yet, up in the kids treehouse?

Be creative, have fun and lose those traditional sex roles, positions and times. Get down and get dirty and enjoy life; it is too short to waste a moment.

Answer 3

Difficulties with erections are rarely due to simple problems with the mechanism, so some details like your age, frequency of sex and masturbation would be helpful in trying to come up with a helpful answer. Assuming you're still fairly young (teens or twenties), then I'd suspect that your problems are mainly due to performance anxiety (that nasty circular thing where fear of failure causes failure) or other worries and concerns. To take an extreme example, it's pretty hard to really get into sex and focus totally on being with your girlfriend if your mother is dying of cancer or something similarly horrible is going on in your life. Another obvious possibility is that there's something wrong with your relationship with your girlfriend. Even though it's commonly believed that guys will happily have sex with just about anyone, any time anywhere, I know from personal experience that some guys will meet Mr Floppy if they're angry, fed up, disappointed or just bored with their current sexual partner.

Answer 4

I don't think you have anything to worry about....it happened to me once and I too was so frustrated. The girl was hot and halfway through...the little general just decided to surrender. The next night I was with another girl who was not nearly as hot as the night prior....I was strong as bull. Now that it has happened...I am sure you are thinking about it especially during sex. Try to forget it and chalk it up to a fluke and see if things change. Good luck!

Answer 5

if you have erections, the you're not impotent. its most probably psychological. maybe you're just nervous about the sexual act itself or having some issues whether you will be able to satisfy her or not. remember that stress in any form affects penal erection and ejaculation.

Answer 6

It is psychological.. if you can't solve it ur self maybe you want to seek psychological assistance..
you are not impotant since you do get hard-ons in other occasions..
impotance is the inability to get that.. ok?

Answer 7

I definately think it is psychological. I think you may be intimidated by how attracted you are to your girlfriend and worried you may not please her. Try having sex blind-folded and let your girlfriend get you worked up.

Answer 8

You're in love with your hand.