Can shyness be cured at any age? Can you cure someone that's already 25, 35 or 55?

Answer 1

Shyness isn't a disease. It's a personality characteristic. There are actually some benefits to it...it's not all negative. In my mind, shyness can protect a person from appearing to be foolish (people who jump right into conversations or groups sometimes make themselves seem too aggressive and/or pushy). With the protective shell of shyness, a person can sit back, observe, listen and gain insight. Then once they feel confident enough, they can join in and contribute.

One way to begin overcoming shyness is to go with a small group of friends, or just one trusted friend, and put yourself into situations which you wouldn't have the courage to go to alone.

Feeling good about yourself, feeling that you are worthwhile and have something to add to a conversation or situation is important. Sometimes shyness can be misinterpreted as snobbishness. That is what sometimes happened to me when I was young.

Hope this helped somewhat!

Answer 2

Absolutely. Shyness is usually a result of insecurity. Also at times it is an inherited personality trait. Either way it can be managed. Building up ones confidence is so empowering. When a person is empowered, it is easier to control the situations which will set the shyness on the back burner.

If you are not as shy in familiar surroundings and are strangers, it has to do with your levels of comfort and confidence. Your comfort zone. The trick is to always set goals to broaden your comfort zone. Set goals to keep expanding your range that you feel empowered in.

Some of the worlds most famous people were shy and still went on to become famous speakers, and influences in life. It is just finding the way to move past it.

Find something your so good at that people focus on more than your shyness and let it take over. Also being around people who are steady and positive reinforcements helps alot to. Getting your confidence raised and look for all your great qualities and bring them out. The shyness lessens with becoming empowered. Just dont let it go to your head and then you turn into the opposite. =))

Then you will come in here saying, hey how to I go back to being shy... im far too bold! =))

Answer 3

If everyone grew out of the bizarre idea that one person can control, change, or remake other people to their specifications, 90% of the questions on YA wouldn't be asked.

Cure? This isn't a bacterial infection we're talking about.

Can one person redo another person? No, nor should one try, or even want to.

What kind of shyness are you talking about? Is it really a problem?

Or are you talking (as some answerers have mentioned) about people who don't try to make instant friends out of everyone they meet, or blab everything about themselves to strangers?

There are inborn temperaments, that a lot of people confuse with some sort of personality disorder.

Some people like to go slow, let others take the risks, see what's what before diving in.

This is neither a disease nor a crime.

Such people should be left alone, to deal with life in their own (much more rational, to my mind) way. (I notice you don't ask about cures for the foolhardy.)

If you're talking about an incapacitating shyness, yes, that can be overcome at any age, but help is not likely to come from amateurs, and won't happen at all unless the person wants help.

Sorry for the rant, but your question illustrates two of my biggest pet peeves with this site: people who think they can remake everyone around them into their ideal, and questions that completely lack all context and relevant details necessary to understanding what the &^*% is being asked.

Answer 4

First thing you are not going to cure anyone of anything, if you are a doctor or in the profession of course you will more then others.
It is the person who is afflicted with being shy who has to work at it.
Being shy is not and I repeat not a bad thing!! In most peoples minds being shy is like being afflicted with leprosy, horrible and bad bad bad. No it is not a bad thing!!
Many reasons out there for someone to be "reserved". Some people who are tagged as being shy are not shy at all. It is society that makes this person "shy". This shy person is put into this category when in fact the person just dose not want all the cards being laid on the table to expose ones throat. There is nothing wrong with someone being careful and not trusting everyone. Nothing wrong with someone not being the center of attention.
My Mr. has been tagged as shy. When I start talking to someone he will walk away and wait near by but not right there. He is not shy, if someone he felt deserves the right to get to know him, does. This person is put upon a pedestal by him and he will do anything for that person. Of course that person screw him over that person will never get to even talk to him as a friend again....
Some people have even tagged me as shy in our small town. We have a big old laugh over this one!! We both would rather have this little town leave us alone. So far there is know one in this little town that need to get to know us that well. Teachers at the school are more apt to know me more then others, but these people gossip and go beyond there professionalism as well.....
So to sum this up shyness is in ones own mind. It is also something society puts on some people. True shyness is not as black and white as people may think. The person may have been hurt, the person may have had problems with people, or the person may not be shy at all....and a person can over come this persona society has put onto them at any age...

My thoughts...

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I am living proof it can be! In high school, I was so shy that I would take a bad grade instead of making a presentation in front of the class! I am now studying to be a teacher, have preached sermons on many occassions, and am always asked to take parts in Christmas plays becuase of my acting abilities. All it takes is a little self-confidence! Merry Christmas!

Answer 7

Itis possible for the shy person to be very open with a certain individual, if that individual can deal with the initial shyness and slowly allow the shy person to open up.

Answer 8

You can't cure someone else, but if they want to be cured themselves, of course it's possible.

The key is that the person who is shy has to change themselves and it starts by them realizing that being shy is useless and causes them misery. When they get so mad and realize that shyness is ruining their life they then open themselves up for change.

Answer 9

Well I don't think 'cured' but at least alleviated. There are clinics for social anxiety disorder aka shyness, most universitiy psychology departments could probably give you a reference as could your family doctor.

Answer 10

Shyness is not a "disease" and, therefore, can't be "cured." It is a self-indulgence based on inaccurate perceptions of ones self and what others are thinking of them. It can be changed.