......away from all these pretentous, lunatics that I have to deal with everyday" What are your ideas as to what he meant? I have known him for 4mo., not intimate, talk everyday online, super nice gentleman (opens doors, helps with coats, walks you to the door!)! He is wanting to move to Florida in a couple months & I am really sick over it. You don't find men like him often at all. We are the same age..47. Thanks for your input.
2006-12-25 05:33:51 · 10 answers · asked by offmgr100 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He is moving because he divorced this past year, has a boat he lives on during the good weather and is looking for a job at a marina. We talk for hours, seriously.. sometimes 4-5hrs at a time. Just laughing and goofing off. I know he needs that though. He has said that he doesn't want anyone to fall in love with him.... but I think that is because of him wanting to leave. So I just keep the hurt inside and encourage him to do what he needs to do to make himself happy. But he knows I don't want him to go.
2006-12-25 05:51:52 · update #1
it sounds like he's testing the waters. subconsciously or not, he could mean, 'i can lean on you'. he clearly has feelings for you, whether his feelings are platonic or not.
you said things were not on an intimate level between the two of you. but it looks like he's falling for you. talking online everyday and being a gentlemen are signs that he wants to get closer to you, even for a nice guy. and the fact that you are really sick about him moving to florida shows that you also some feelings for him. the questions is, why have you not gotten to know each other intimately yet? anyway, i hate to sound corny, but i sure hope one of you takes it to the next level. whatever you do (or don't) just try not to regret it later.
good luck.
2006-12-25 05:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by skywarp_38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly... I think he has some issues, he is either mentally unstable or perhaps he just doesn't have any friends- which means no life, then again he could be going through so much drama that your the only down to earth and drama free person he knows and he really feels your all he's got to keep him in reality... To keep him in touch.
I'd be scared as hell if I was you!
No you don't find men like him often... So what does that mean? Think about it! He could be a damn fool, controlling, abusive and so much more... beyond this! Even he doesnt' want no one to fall in love with him...... Run girl run get away while you can without getting into this even deeper than what you are!
Most of my ex/s played the good guy/ good one game, unbelievable- none like me anymore- and then after you let their behinds in.... and BAM! And sweetie! 4mos. *No one should be ready and willing to relocate!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just like that! and at 47! Yes he just got divorced.... Why? Questions you should know! What wasn't he doing right or what was he doing?
It sounds like he doesn't want anything serious anyway!
Good luck, you are going to need it and you will need lots of it!
*I am not trying to discourage you or anything but nor will I encourage you... I have to be honest with you. People die every day and every day people lie and hide themselves until they are in good enough where the truth can be exposed and the light shines through. Most of the time its too late and the light blinds you anyway!
2006-12-25 06:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sit here and read your question over and over again and again but I still come up with the same thing. That 26 years ago this year I had met a female friend and we had became close and she had become my rock to bring me back to reality. I thought that we may be able to go on further with this after a couple of years of being around each other. She said that we are better at having a Potomac relationship then to have any thing else and at first I did not understand what she had meet. Well after I had raised my son for awhile by myself and gotten remarried our friendship continued to this day and it has been 26 years and she still is my rock. I have never had a disagreement or a fight with my wife because they now are both my rock. Her and I still talk about our children and our daily life and if we have a problem that we need to discuss we talk to one another about it and it is like having one of your dearest friends that you can tell all to but they are just the opposite sex.
2006-12-25 06:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by lonehermit2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 00:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by kinjorski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he depends on you to be his anchor in life, apparently he has problems, does he talk to you about any problems constantly, if this is true then all you have is someone who needs you to be a sounding board, your opinion in his problems, or for him to make decisions.Why does he want to move to Florida? If you want a relationship with him beyond what you have you must make a move before he leaves or perhaps loose him. Ask him if he has any feelings for you, arrange a meeting or even a date,women can ask a man on a date to.
2006-12-25 05:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he feels you are a good friend that he can count on to be honest. Go for it if you don't think you can handle him moving. Tell him, NOT US, how you feel, but don't be hurt or surprised if it's just a friend thing with him.
2006-12-25 05:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sense a love story. Follow him to Florida....
2006-12-25 05:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a friend wish him well and keep in contact. Trust and intimacy are not exclusive to romance.
2006-12-25 05:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by Billy Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just means, that when life gets hectic, he knows he can turn to you for safe harboring.
2006-12-25 05:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me as if he is saying u are his ROCK basically you keep him grounded and you are reliable thats just my thinking.
2006-12-25 05:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by Laura Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋