Taking a poll.. Do you agree with the following statement/ paragraph?

Question

I choose me. If I don't take care of me first, then I have nothing to give. If I don't do what is best for me, then I won't be able to do what it best for you. It is in being whole, that I find the energy to give, to love, to have compassion, to be kind. Therefore, I choose me. I put me first. I cannot and will not live my life for you. I must live my life for me. This is essential for the well being of my heart.

Answer 1

Wholeheartedly agree! You have to put yourself first or the rest of the world will walk all over you. If you love yourself first then you are in a healthy position to love others. If you put yourself last you will end up stressed out, depleted, resentful and have no real love to give anyone else. You will wind up a shell of a human.

Don't let people tell you that you are "selfish" for taking care of yourself. That's ridiculous. It's not healthy to be selfless and a martyr. People who are afraid to say no. People who give & give & overschedule themselves. These people end up with ulcers & nervous breakdowns. These people end up alcoholics & pill poppers. These people wind up in abusive, co-dependent relationships. It's a self-esteem thing. You have to love yourself to have a healthy life & healthy relationships. It doesn't mean narcissism. It doesn't mean you only love yourself & never care about anyone else. It means you follow the number one rule of survival. Put yourself first. Respect yourself & others will follow suit. Treat yourself like garbage & guess how others will treat you?

Choose you. You are the most important person in your life.

Answer 2

There is merit in the statement, however in my opinion it is not univresally true. Cherity exist in all states of emotion. Social well being is tied to the human condition, as are all matters of emotion and the intangible. Being whole as an individual is an important part of the giving process only in that it provides a greater insight into the value of the gift. It is not necessary to the sentiment of giving. People like Ghandi would say that you would not be whole unless you gave everything of yourself to your fellow man, and to God. So in effect is the giving that makes us whole. The state of mind with regard to self is not a variable that impedes the good nature of the giver. I would disagree with that paragraph.

Answer 3

Yes, but only to a point. It's kind of like the safety instructions when flying with a child or someone who may need assistance. You put your oxygen mask on first before helping them. If not, you may not be able to help anyone.

Same thing with being happy. Someone else cannot make you happy. You have to find happiness within before being able to share your happiness with someone.

However, this statement could become a steppingstone for a very selfish person, so it must be kept in perspective.

Given perspective, then, yes I do.

Answer 4

absolutely. This is not for selfishness and there are times to put others first in a sitation... I have had people in my life expect me to live for them. To show respect, when they didn't deserve it. That I should not be angry at them when they hurt me. That I should not offend them and perform in front of them because of their beliefs. That I should not hurt them, even though the fact that I disagree with them, hurts them. I am supposed to take the blame and guilt for all that went wrong between us. And that I should just accept that they accept me. I found that living for other people brings on anxiety attacks. I find that finally, after saying that these people do not feel like family to me and that I CHOOSE ME. Then I find peace. Then I can walk away. Then I can put those invisible ear plugs in. Then I can say 'exuse me' and walk away, 25 times in a row when they insist on putting guilt on me and asking me personal questions... Because it is what is best for me. Their hurt can no longer maniupulate me. I actually don't feel. I don't feel love. I don't feel hate. I feel just 'nthing' just indifferent. I feel bad for the mom that got hurt. I feel dissapointed that things are the way they are. But I don't feel anything for that person... just the role. The role of the family is all that is alived. The feelings are not cold or warm, it is 0. I don't care anymore. I just care that I walk away being proud of myself for how I handled myself. That is finally, after all these years putting me first. Funny though, in a way, indifference feels cold. It feels hard... This is the second time I have felt indifference. It scares me, yet I embrace it... for in there, is the place that I don't live for them... I live for me. So, yes I agree... I choose me. And I am not a selfish person, I am compassionate and giving and kind and generous. But I do have to fill me first so I can overflow.

Answer 5

I agree . . . Some would say that by saying this is shallow and selfish . . . yet by increasing my awareness, soul growth, tending to my personal health, and helping another out of my care and love for them . . .than that stems from a base that I have nurtured to be awakened in bringing out the best in me...having that, I in turn help and love others from a place of loving foundation...a foundation of connectedness with Higher Source. Through taking care of me . . . I open and nuture the environment for the growth of the Bright Light within me...I touch anothers heart / soul . . . their Bright Light is increased . . . and so it goes. It all starts with knowing myself first so I can then know others to connect with them. Peace to you.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

While I agree with your statement in principle I must also point out that it could lead to you becoming self centered and uncaring.
There are times in life when we must sacrifice our own wants and desires for others.

Answer 8

I can't see why "if I don't do what is best for me, then I won't be able to do what is best for you." the interest of you and I could be different and could cause a conflict here.

Answer 9

Sounds good, but in reality I think it's hard-nosed, obnoxious, selfish and greedy. We are to put others first and do what we can, God takes care of us when we obey Him and do as He asks.

Answer 10

hmmm...disagree, please note that this belief is also central to satanism, to put the self first before others.

There is too much selfishness these days. As a consequence we have high rates of divorce, adultry, broken homes, alcoholism, neglect of children, neglect of the poor and needy which leads to poverty and consequently crime...etc.