How to make someone feel BAD?

Question

Well, I've found lots of ways to make people feel better about themselves, but how do you actually make them feel bad?

Sometimes it feels like our messages don't get through to our target (especially men - sorry, nothing personal!), and they just seem to ignore what is important to you.

Except guilt trips, which are used to often to have a miraculous effect, what way - with examples - would you use to make someone feel bad about something they did?

Answer 1

First, rid yourself of the notion that you can control others, or remake them to be what you want.

You can't.

You can either deal with the person, or not deal with the person.

As the other answer said, you give no hint of a clue as to what, exactly, is going on.

What did he do? How did you respond?

You can let him know how you feel, and that might make him feel bad.

There are no miracles here, though.

You can't control people; take them as you find them, or leave them to themselves.

Answer 2

It's hard for me to discern what your intention is with this question. If you want to punish someone for their behavior, you'll only bring more unhappiness onto yourself.

On the other hand, if you want someone to understand how they hurt you, to have some remorse or empathy, then you might consider simply saying, "That hurt. I felt.... (explain what it felt like or meant to you.)" and "You wouldn't like it if someone did that to you."