I don't know how to stop repeating my past mistakes with my frailed friendships. I keep loosing them for the same reason every time and I can't seem to control it anymore. How do I deal?
2006-12-25 04:26:35 · 14 answers · asked by Snowwhite30 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
We're kind of in the same path. well i used to be...
while i ws in elementary school and a 6th grade i had a fights about stupid things and lost valuable friendships...
i guess i tried to learn from my mistakes and asked my recent all the stuff they didn't like about me and it was tough listening to some of them but it helped...i tried to change every aspect but of course not in an exagerated way because you can't stop being yourself you know but now i haven't had a fight in quite along time...
2006-12-25 05:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by SHE'S A DANCING QUEEN ! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find the root of this problem. Counseling could really help you with this. There is something that happened in your life to make you like this and the only way to break that cycle is to find the problem that caused this. I suggest you go see a counselor to help you find out why you do this and to deal with it and so you can be a better friend. Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-25 04:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same actions always bring the same results.you seem to know what these actions are but you do them any way as if to ruin your own friendships on purpose.Perhaps you're like one of my daughters use to be as a child,she'd do things that weren't good or right and push people to their limit to see who in her mind loved her and if you loved her you'd put up with her behavior.I didn't and I taught her that the world does not spin just for her and there are other people here on earth that needed to be considered.you are in control of these things you do and you can change them when you want.stop allowing your self to fool your self or you'll end up alone.
2006-12-25 04:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn from your past mistakes. You may have set yourself a pattern and are finding it hard to break. When you see yourself repeating something--stop and think it over and don't do it again. You can change it if you want to.
2006-12-25 04:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First youhave to identifiy what you are doing wrong. Then you have to take resposibility for what you have (or have not) done and fix it.
From the way you worded the question, it sounds like you know what you are doing wrong and you know that it is wrong. Now you have to accept that you are responsible for making those mistakes, accept the consequences, and change so that it doesn't happen again.
2006-12-25 04:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by ratluke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay alone for awhile, no matter how lonely it seems - don't look for the time being. If it is a problem with don't be afriad to seek counselling.
I went through the same thing, I finally met my soul mate.
2006-12-25 04:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by Emily L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make a conscious effort--when you see the same old mistakes/habits/behaviors appear, you have to stop. It is hard to say more without knowing the exact problem.
2006-12-25 04:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by HCH32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling might help. You may be acting out stuff from your past unconsciously. If you speak to someone about this, the problem may be revealed and dealt with. Good luck.
2006-12-25 04:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to learn from your mistakes...
If you don't... you are stupid.
Everyone is entitle to make a mistake...
To make the same mistake twice makes people wonder about you.
To make it three times... you are a lost cause.
2006-12-25 04:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see why your repeating it is something your doing or not doing...once you learn the lesson the repeats will END!!
2006-12-25 04:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by Radtech1996 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋