I would like my wife to be more agressive in our physical relationship. Is this bad? What should I say?

Answer 1

Why would asking for what you want from someone you love and presumably respect be bad? Most men ( and women too) enjoy being pursued. It says that we are wanted and desired by our partner.

I had the same problem. I had to sit my husband down and come right out and tell him how important it was to me to be chased, hunted, stalked and caught. No, honey. Not kidding. Well, only a little, maybe. But some of us lean a little toward the submissive (hey - you have your fetish - I have mine).

Whatever it is, black pantyhose, a little light s&m, red wine with dinner - If it doesn't hurt anyone and it gives you a smile why not ask for what you want? All she can say is no. And you may find that she has a few desires of her own. It may just open up a whole new dialogue for you both.

Talk to her honey. Tell her how much you love her and how much it would mean to you. Any woman would rather hear you tell her that you want her to be the persuer than that you want some other woman to. You can do it. I believe in you.

Answer 2

I wouldnt say its bad, and, besides, if both of you agree on something and enjoy it its more or less ok.
I like agressive women too, so i kinda have the same problem. What id do is try to find ways to let her know she can be in charge, for example offer to give her a massage or a foot rub (or something else women are also fond of), perhaps add a little intensity to the whole action, see what she does with all that, and then if necessary talk to her out in the open at some other time, ie mention that youd love her to be more agressive (dont tell her while ur in bed though, better wait and discuss it afterwards).
Good luck mate!

Answer 3

Dont say anything, use a bit of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) ...

Next time she is having an orgas** scratch her a bit or soemthing, in her mind she'll program agresivness with pleasure, then slowly escalate each time from the original and her sexual identity will be slightly reprogrammed to relate agresivnes to pleasure =)

Or you could follow everyone else's advice ... "Umm ... hunny, well, I wanted to uh, ask you something ... " =)

Oh and this works - I speak from a point of expierience

Answer 4

Does she just lay there and roll over when you're done? If so, she may have some hang-ups about sex. The best thing to do is just talk to her, broach the subject carefully, and tell her what you'd like for her to do. Good luck.

Answer 5

Aggressive, like knock you around some? Or more interactive and taking more of the intitiative to get things started? The former you're just a freak. The latter very reasonable.

Answer 6

If she was that way before you were married or in the early part of marriage you could talk to her about it.
But if your into this marriage long term and it wasn't between you two before.. I doubt seriously she is going to take the initiative now. Just be happy the way she is don't' try to change her now.

Answer 7

Well is not really bad, but if you fell that way just tell her, remember relationship are all about trust, is not like she is going to make fun of you after all you got married so she must love you a lot.

Answer 8

No, what most guys want in a relationship( please don't get offended) but a guy is looking for a friend, that hooker, someone to take care of you while your under the weather and etc. If you can get all of these things in one woman you've got a keeper.

Answer 9

No that's not bad just explain to her you'd like her to wear the man pants a lil at times and you two communicate about it!

Answer 10

First, talk to her openly and frankly about your physical issues. It may be that she isn't getting satisfied and is taking that out on you. Pay attention to what she says and be willing to compromise.