2006-12-25 03:09:20 · 18 answers · asked by neutral 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because 30 years is a long time to be married! You have shared probably some of the Most Memorable Moments with this person..I wouldn't say its time wasted ..Sure everyone has problems..Start living the next 30 years now with out regrets now, live life to the fullest and start to be happy! Just look back on the last 30 years as Some Great Memories.There had to be a few :)
I wish you A Merry Christmas
And a Even Better New Year
Good Luck
2006-12-25 03:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by Shem 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may be depressed for some reason and therefore only see the negative parts of your relationship. I don't believe that anyone would stay married for such a long time if they were not getting something from the relationship. But right now, looking back, you can not see anything but gloom. you probably feel the same way about the future. Don't make any permanent decisions until you get help from a competent therapist. See a doctor first for a full physical exam to rule out physical causes.
2006-12-25 03:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by babydoll 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cause it has been. Not that no good has come of it. I mean, you're still alive and kicking. Enjoy the moment. I got out of a 17yr old relationship/marriage last september and boy sometimes I wonder why I am sooooo stupid as to fall for any man! Now I think it's fun to flirt with good looking men and that's the only thing men are good at. Hope you take it easy and enjoy life!
2006-12-25 04:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by crazyloonynice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the flames went to a flicker, and then the candle went out! Needs to be re-lit if things are going to work. You don't stay for 30 years and then think that you have waisted all that time, surely you have something to show for that amount of time that is positive. Focus on those things and bring the marriage back to life, after all, you're worth it, and so is your spouse.
2006-12-25 03:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sad! If you think back over 30 years, there HAVE to be some good things. I was married for 16 years before getting divorced. I refuse to think all that was wasted. It just makes it hurt more. Try making a list of the good things. I think you'll be surprised at how many there are.
2006-12-25 03:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy jane 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i've got faith someone could have an entire existence in 50 years or perhaps alot much less.i understand people who're in basic terms 50 or much less that are already retired plus have already raised a relatives.in basic terms you already know what's substantial to you.I think of in case you meet somebody and grow to be in touch in a realtionship, you would be greater prepared to go away with a number of your sequence, considering you may wish room to your substantial different's issues.i'm fifty six, single and have in no way had toddlers. i'm attempting to downsize my existence of amassing.It won't mean something to absolutely everyone while i'm long previous, and that i hate to go away the load to somebody else.i think of being concentrated on attaining your desires and objectives and being effective is a tremendous ingredient. yet, looking the suited person to share your existence with can be very profitable.as long as you're happy, you won't be able to be dropping your existence. Take care and good luck!!
2016-10-18 23:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by lander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a pretty normal response......I felt the same way and still do from time to time after twelve years. I am fortunate to have re-married a really good and loving person the second time around, but can't help feelings of resentment over betrayal, and lies. It takes time and happens to more people than you think, but so does cancer, heart attack, and death......Be thankful for what you have survived. Learn, live, forgive, and love again.
2006-12-25 04:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe , because right now you are angry and dissapointed.......in a while,probably, you will remember the good things......why you felt in love with that person......why you had to be together that part of yur lifes....... and all you learned about relationship and the new one will be different because now you are not the same!
2006-12-25 03:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by mariposa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it has been. I have spent 20 years . Your older you know the old days are gone. Do something about it before it's to late!!
2006-12-25 10:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by pat1268 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because 1% is making love,10% is being happy together4% raising your kids and 15 % is sleeping.
2006-12-25 03:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋