because the inlaws dislike you because you are white and they are black muslums, what do you do, yesterday the mother called me telling me how bad of a person i am, and when i said look its xmas and im sick why are you doing this, her reply was i dont care if its xmas or not, then calls and wants my girlfriend to go to xmas breakfast, uhh i just dont get it soemone help am i being, selfish, i was raised award of the state ive never had a decentchristmas, and im trying to make her my familyu, and my christmas, im trying to make my own happiness, and my own memories, as i dont have many from the past, i dont know maybe im being stupid.
2006-12-25 02:52:03 · 8 answers · asked by justice4jcc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your mate is being selfish by leaving you alone. Either she can stand up to her family and tell them you must be welcomed and treated better or she needs to not go either. If she loves you she won't go anywhere on a holiday without you.
2006-12-25 04:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by Pache 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not married good, two years too many to put up with it. Quit trying to make a family with people who do not care, will never get better.
Sorry you were raised as a ward of the state, but get some help in understanding there is a healthy way to have relationships with others. I understand that institutionalization doesn't provide that but neither is this relationship, unless you take it as a lesson on what not to do.
Take some time to seek your own understanding then you can try to find someone who is in agreement with you.
As a creation of God you would be wise to choose to be treated with more respect.
2006-12-25 11:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET SOME SELF-RESPECT! If your mate doesn't find you important enough to spend the holidays with, find a mate that respects and cares enough about you to share the holidays with you! Your mate is being selfish and stupid by abandoning you when you need her most! Is this the way you want to spend the rest of your life? Someone out there will love and respect you. Just because you don't find them right away doesn't mean that they don't exist. Good luck sweetheart! Happy Holidays!!!
2006-12-25 11:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by lauralie1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being stupid at all. Your really trying hard for there acceptance. My brother was in a relationship, he is Mexican and she is white and her parents did not like him for that fact and thought he was not good for there daughter..
Well, long story short, they got married and have a beautiful daughter.. He proved her family all wrong.. they finally got to know him and now they just love him!
I hope things work out between you and her family. People should put aside there differences and not just cause its the holidays ..no one should spend it alone, I'm sure you have had plenty of those.
I wish you A Very Merry Christmas and Good Luck
2006-12-25 11:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh. You need to find people who love you! These people are insane. Move yourself out of there, break ALL ties with them, and make new friends who support your feelings and your beliefs. Leave them now! Pack your things and move in with me if you must, but get out of there before they take your sanity. And by the way -- Merry Christmas!
2006-12-25 11:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FInd a new "mate"/spouse that respects and loves you and learn to love yourself and treat yourself like you want others to treat you. Life is too short to stay in a bad relationship....ALone is actually better than being emotionally abused.
2006-12-25 10:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by T S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you lived close to me, my husband left me home alone today also, yes, to go to his mothers, and no I wasn't invited either. What stinks there is nothing open or to do today. I've been trying to keep busy cooking, maybe he'll appreciate that when he gets home. Merry Chritmas to you and God bless....
2006-12-25 13:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by jm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You're trying to find your hppiness in someone else's dysfunctionl fmily. You might be where you need to do it for you insted of for him. Ask God for wht you wnt. He will open fril herts but he will not give you junk.
2006-12-25 11:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sports Maven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋