Women... When going on a dinner date with a man, what kind of gentlemenly manners do you expect?

Question

i.e. open doors,seating you, table manners, etc.

Answer 1

Hey girls stop giving out all this quality info. to the competition. Your telling them everything that I do and which makes me special.

Answer 2

Basic manners are all thats required-whether it the man or woman...i.e., whoever asked for the date pays for the meal, whoever reaches the door first holds it open, etc. Its always nice to feel pampered, but I can pull out my seat and open a door, etc. Much more important is while youre on the date-look and respond to her, dont look around at other women or not genuinely listen to what shes saying.

My fiancee is terrible about a lot of simple politeness and while sometimes I wish he was better, what I remember most about our first date is that he never took his eyes off me and he can still tell you what we talked about.

I will say one thing, in the dawn of cell phones, is that if you actually pick her her up at her residence, go to the door and knock and wait; don't just call her on her phone and have her come outside. Ive been shocked at how many men think this "convenience" is acceptable.

Answer 3

I don't expect for a man to help me sit, but it's appreciated (ie.pull out the chair), but I do expect good table manners, and for him to actually listen if I'm talking. If I don't reach to open a door, I would like for him to open it, but if I do reach to open it, it's not as though I expected him to do so, and hold it against him. It's really important that he doesn't talk about himself all night, unless I'm asking questions. Basically I just want common courtesy; don't talk about/look at other women, belch, or otherwise act crass.

Answer 4

First open the car door and let the women get in first.

Second open the car door when she gets out.

Third open the doors for her everywhere you go.

Fourth seat her

Fifth TABLE MANNERS

Sixth Interesting conversation

Seventh PAY ALL OF IT ON A FIRST DATE

Those are just some of the things we expect.

Answer 5

I expect them to be polite and have manners. I'm my own person so I won't be standing their waiting for a man to open doors for me because if I'm at the door first, I will open it for the both of us. That's common sense, if he gets there first then he should open it. We should pull out our own chairs, that ritual never made any sense to me and is actually a little uncomfortable and I don't see the purpose of it.

Answer 6

I wouldn't want him to do anything further than opening doors for me or having proper table manners (ie: not chewing with his mouth open or being sloppy/loud). Some people see a man "helping a woman sit" or taking off her coat or paying for the entire date as polite. But I see it as holding a baby's hand, which to me is not polite at all. In fact, it's a turn-off and it's fake.

Answer 7

opening the car/building entrance door for ladies, obviously, but if you're entering a revolving door, a man pushes it first then let the woman enters. pulling out the chair for the woman to sit, and help her push it back to the table. asking her what she'd like to order, and ordering it for her. listens when she talks, keep your eyes on her and not wandering around. respond to the conversation. if it's a first date, pay for the dinner. be sincere and polite, and don't fake it or try too hard 'cause it'll show.

Answer 8

Arriving on time, opening doors, seating me, ordering on my behalf (let's me choose, but speaks to the waiter/waitress on my behalf), table manners, good, light conversation. Listen to me and look at me and not have wandering eyes. I want you to be enraptured by my presence.

It would also be really nice if, when you picked me up, that you brought me a single flower - not a rose - a red carnation is nice.

I expect to be taken home, walked to the door and that you would wait to ensure that I got in safely.

I would also expect that you would call me the next day and tell me what a wonderful evening you had.

All of these little things make you a Prince Charming.

Great question. All the best.

Answer 9

How a man treats a woman is actually a reflection of what he feels about himself. I would not want a man that practices poor manners anymore than I would want a man who feels that women are somehow inferior to a man. That is someone who has deep seated problems on more than one level.

Answer 10

Just general politeness. Listening, sharing, being interested.
Offering to pay. I expect him to open the door for me to a restaurant but not the car door. I feel very awkward when a date opens the car door for me.

Answer 11

I expect them to be polite. no crude humour please, at least not until said person knows that there date improves of it, and in the appropriate place.( NOT in some fancy restraunt) also, if you get your food first, please, for your sake, wait untill her food comes before you start on your own. Keep your mouth SHUT when you chew (practise if you must) dont slurp and watch your sleeve and tie so it doesn;t get stuck in liquid (more to save you personal embarresment) make sure you are aware of your dates need. If she is struggling to cut her meat, or if her glass is empty, offer her help, or wave down a waitress or waiter