You know what... suddenly I feel that I do not deserve this girl at all. She is way too perfect for me: Beautiful, kind, caring, friendly, et cetera. Even though I deeply care for her, suddenly I feel so lonely, so alone here. I feel that I do not deserve her.
I have told her my feeling but she said just want to be friends. Since then I am determined to wait for her, but suddenly, I feel that I do not deserve her...
Then I plan to give her something for her birthday next month, but... suddenly I feel that I should just keep it to myself despite the fact that I have made it and it is a lot of effort!
What should I do? Give her, give her not?
2006-12-25 02:04:40 · 20 answers · asked by Mr Asker Knowmore 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Again, don't feel alone. Honestly, I wish my husband did things for me like you are doing for this lucky girl. My husband didn't even think this way when we were courting for 1 week. Actually, I feel that, that was the problem we never took the time to be friends. We met then got engaged three days later. So, stick with her and give her your loving gift. If you truly feel the way that you say you do, please don't deny her you. You may be the best thing that has ever happened to her. There is only one way to find out. Go for it!
2006-12-25 04:17:30 · answer #1 · answered by art_girlt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like she is trying to tell you that she is not interested in you in "that" way. There is no reason to be down or insulted by that, that's just a matter of chemistry. It's hard to say about the gift because I don't know what it is, but if it's going to seem overly personal or intimate or over the top then it might not be a good idea. It's not a matter of not deserving her, it's a matter of compatibility and she's determined that it's not right, so move on.
2006-12-25 02:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as it is not an item that professes you undieing love or anything that that will make her feel like you are pressuring or stalking her then go ahead and give it to her. Or if it really is a piece of you and you want to save it until you meet that special someone who's right for you then do that.
But then go on a self improvement kick. Sit down and realisticly evaluate yourself. Decide the things you need to and can improve upon and then do it. Maybe this girl s not the right one for you but by way of improving yourself you will increase your sef confidence improve your health, looks, and attitude for the next wonderful girl who comes along.
2006-12-25 02:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by aiguyaiguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,nobody is 'unfit' for anyone. you are someone special.Does being beautiful ,caring ...etc makes a perfect person?you gotta rack your brains on that.Planning a surprise for her is also a way to show that you actually care and that you deserve to be more than just a friend.being just ordinary friends isn't a bad thing after all.it just takes time.btw,all the best in your pursue!
2006-12-25 02:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by kathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want the thing? will it do you any good? Are you keeping it just because you are mad she wants to be friends and not something more? If you havent found anyone else to give it to by then, wish her a happy birthday, hope she likes it or at least pretends to, and if it was something naughty laugh with her about it.
2006-12-25 02:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah Give It To Her....Everytime She Looks At It She'l Think Of You... Your Friends Thats What Friends Do......
2006-12-25 02:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right in moving on and getting someone new.But I think you should give your present to her as a friend. Bring a girl friend along. Then she'll understand that you are over her and is her good friend.
2006-12-25 02:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by HopeGrace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you seem infactuated - you need to talk through your feelings, if you give her the gift - youll feel cheated, if she doent give you what you want - did you majke the gift for her - or yourself???? Your choice, but just cos you bought her something does not mean she owes you anythign other than a thank you - she may not even want the gift
2006-12-25 02:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her, and also nobody is perfect so stop saying u dont deserve her or anything.
2006-12-25 02:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by ~Mevsim~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Become glad to know that,she is perfect to u.Hey,u should give it to her.Wish u best of luck
2006-12-25 02:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋