Make note that this is normal in our culture and altough i was born and raised in Australia, i can't see myself waiting till im 30 to get married... People think its weird for others to get married at 18 and i think its weird that people would want to put off marriage for so long? What do you guys think?
2006-12-25 00:44:58 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I first want to commend you for believing in the institution of marriage. These day, it's so much easier to love them and leave them. Marriage says "I'm here in good and bad times". Age is just a number, it's the level of maturity that must be attained in order for a marriage to sustain all the in's and out's that come along with it. If you have reached that certain level of maturity, and have found the person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life with, I say dive in with both feet, and enjoy the ride!
2006-12-25 03:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by Special K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know it's interesting...i've seen a lot of old couples, that have been married for quite a long time...you ask them how old they were when they got married....it all ranges around the early 20's...and in some cases 18...hell even as young as 15.
And like i said..they've been married for more than 20 years....commendable to say the least in comparison to people of today...who can't even keep a relationship to the double digits. And interesting enough they marry around the 25-30 range!
Age isn't nothing but a number, of course within legal grounds. So NO 22 isn't too young for marriage, actually around age 22-24 is the time a person is most ready and prime for mating anyway, so TECHNICALLY that's the ideal age to get someone and start makin babies. People get married at an older age because they feel they're at their most wise and mature age to do so...and by that time most people SHOULD be financially and just stable enough to marry anyway. Yet people fail to realize that those who are quite successful in their careers can't AFFORD to get married due to the demand of their job i.e. (doctors, lawyers, anyone in big businesses), given they have children, time together etc. That's why there's that choice: family or career?
If you're married sooner, then although your careers may not flourish as soon as you want it to, you still can get it..but TOGETHER..hence when you're accustom to living together and enter your careers..you're more adept to adapt to any stress because you're already accustom to being in a marriage, while newly weds will most likely have difficulty because they haven't adapted to the 'living together part'
Some of that's theory, some of it is truth out of observation....but either way if people back in the day can get married at 15-21, and have a successful marriage that lasts, then 22 is no different. Really it all depends on YOU and how patient and mature you and your woman is.
2006-12-25 00:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends so much on the person! Some people are saying go for it, and some are saying that it is way too young. It depends on THE PERSON. I was married at 20 and have been married a little over a year. I will be married to my wonderful man until one of us dies. Maturity is the key. Some people are way too immature at 40 to get married. So I believe it depends on the maturity level more than the age. If people would just remember that it is making a commitment that is supposed to be 'till death do you part'. I wish people didn't make a commitments and promises they can't keep.
2006-12-25 01:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by jmd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depends. I know many 22 year olds that were ready for marriage and have been happy for 10+ years already. I have met a few that got married at 22 or younger who just never really learned anything about life, and never really grew up. Now they raise children and are a bit helpless and miserable.
I think there is nothing wrong with getting married at 22, if it is right for you and you feel you are ready and committed to stay married for the rest of your life.
2006-12-25 00:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by Bored With This 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
22 is a perfectly reasonable age to get married. 18 is too young, the person is still barely above a child and may or may not be mature enough to be able to handle the responsibility of marriage. but after the 21st birthday, when you are a legal adult in every country of the world, then there is no reason why you should wait to get married if you are ready now.
2006-12-25 00:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by ohyes_itsbekah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I don't think 22 is too young for marriage.
Please don't let culture or other people dictate the age you should get married. Rather, whenever you are ready and your other half is ready, that's the best time to get married. By ready I mean, mature sexually and emtionally, and able to accept what you will miss out from not being single, and accept the responsibilities to come with marriage.
2006-12-25 00:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For you I would say yes just because you are even asking this question. Some people would equate being ready with the success or failure of the marriage but being ready is more the feeling you have about the person. The question should be are you mature enough to make the marriage last. Anyone one can be ready but will you finish.
2006-12-25 01:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares at what age you get married or even consider getting married. No one can TELL YOU what is a good age. ONLY YOU CAN decide that. There is nothing wrong with getting married at 20, 30, 35, 50 or 90. Which ever is best for you.
2006-12-25 05:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 20. Back in the day women married as soon as they could bear children...which I think is terrible. Ultimately, when you find the person that is worthy of the rest of your life...you know. There is no set age for that, and no one else can tell you what is right for you. Love is blind, ageless, and above reason. Hormones however, are not...and divorces aren't cheap. I suspect AU is trying to keep the divorce rate down since people who marry later in life have the stability they need and tend to stay married while the younger generations tend to divorce rather than stick it out through a rocky situation.
2006-12-25 00:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by Destiny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not at all these days, actually, a lot of people have started getting married right out of High School or during College, so 22 is good.
2006-12-25 00:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by I Hate Liberals 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋