Why get married?

Question

I've never been big on the idea of marriage, it's always just seemed like a waste of effort and resources. Are there any REAL benifits from getting hitched? I'm not looking for answers telling me about love and all that, I understand relationships but personally do not see any benifits over just living with your other and having a good relationship without the paper work and possibility of devorce in the future.

Please don't assume that I am anti-marriage. I know that it works out wonderfully for some people (my parents have been married for 33 years now, which is amazing considering that my mother was 15 and my father was 20 when they got married) I just don't see how it would benifit me in any way.

Any thoughts?

Answer 1

I think each person would have different opinions. Personally, i think marriage is too hyped. Do it if you want to, otherwise nothing lost.

Answer 2

The biggest reason to get married rather than just live together is for the legal protections that marriage affords. If you are unmarried and living together and one person dies, the other partner does not automatically get property and assets that are not in his/her name (house, retirement accounts, etc.) and custody of any children can be challenged. You also usually cannot get insurance benefits from your partner's employer.

If you are not planning on having kids and you both have good jobs with your own insurance benefits, you might be ok, but remember if you live together for a really long time and put each other's names on everything separating might be even more difficult than getting divorced.

Best wishes...

Answer 3

I agree with you somewhat. I don't really see what signing a paper and saying I Do does. Right now, I would still be with my husband and love him just as much regardless of if we were married, but by being married, I can live here with him on base (he's a Marine)! Otherwise i'd be stuck back in Ohio missing him just like I did for the last three years. I feel like we've always been married!

Answer 4

you are saying this for now since you haven't met the RIGHT person yet....I definitely would say you will change your mind about this once you would fall in love and would look forward to raising a family and such....
once you are married you will definitely stand up for the responsibilities as a wife and as a mother, expected the husband should do the same
if your relationship is bounded legally that will make you think twice before you screw up the marriage....it will give you the outlines and the expectations that would protect the rights of the individuals involved in the relationship.....
think about this...how could anything in this world work without any agreement and contracts or even laws to follow? duh...

Answer 5

If thats how you feel you should never bother getting married because even though your Parents have been married all those years you see no point in it
you will probably not make the long haul because if something goes wrong you want the easy way out with out by not having to go to court to end the relationship

Answer 6

well, despite the fact that love seems unimportant to you, there are more reasons than just that. think of the tax break! think of all the wonderful times you spend together, much like your parents who have learned over time that despite the mistakes and mishaps along the way, it sure beats growing old alone. or lonely. you will have a travel and adventure partner for life. you have someone to tell you if you really look fat in those pants. you will have someone you can share secrets and dreams with. you have someone you can build a generation with. it's a blessing.

Answer 7

The only reason is children. That matters whether a child grows in incomplete family without father or not.

Answer 8

I think that wedding is more important than all paper work. Marriage is important if you are religious person, otherwise it has no point at all!

Answer 9

Don´t do It .