We are taking a friend on a quick trip to Vegas in three weeks, she's ill. We are all gal pals for many years and it will be a total of five. Her husband is going to join us now...that's fine, he's her hubbie. The dilema is, now he's invited a few men to come along ie: brother, Dad, best friend. We just wanted it to be a weekend for us together, as old girlfriends celebrating her life. What is up ? I'm sorry, but I findher hubbie controlling and ....I won't say more. This is it....she's not going to be around in a few Now some of the women want to cancel and I say bs. I've never experienced a more controlling individual and I've respected the union for years but this is it. BTW she wants to go but is a bit of a wallflower and always has been. What do you say? Serious answers only please. Happy Christmas.
2006-12-24 20:16:30 · 5 answers · asked by Jen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to stand up and make it clear this was a ladies trip.
2006-12-24 20:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that since you were the one with the idea you can say that this is for you girls and that he can come, but please no one else. and he better not go and tell his brother and other guys exactly that or else they will think you are a total biotch! so hopefully they will understand and give you ladies some space. also, if they do end up going, most of the time the guys and girls seperate at vegas and they do their own thing, so no matter what you gals will have your space and if not you can make your space once there. but if this is not comforting, then i would pull her hubbie aside and say "hey sorry, but i really want to have this get together justthe five of us and you if you want, but we do not really want the other guys to come, and i know that may sound mean, but this is a girls night out thing and it really does mean a lot to us. just as you guys like your space, we like ours too. i do not want to be mean and rude, like i said, you are welcome to come, but this is not a major party for your guys. you guys can plan something else later. " i know this may be hard for you to do and you already have some tension built up since you said that he is controlling, but you need to express how you feel and he should respect it. by the way, "why don't you want them to join you gals" do you think it is a possibility that you will enjoy yourself with the guys there, and maybe you girls can plan to have your own space once there? make sure you know why you do not think having the guys there is a good idea, so that you can back yourself up. but you do not need to give any explanations if you do not want to. i am just saying so that they dont take you as a total jerk. merry christmas to you too and i really hope that was helpful .
2006-12-25 04:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
check in to seperate hotels....she's ill so obviously the husband wants to be near her...at the same time male campanions for him to hangout with...it's vegas honey..I'm sure the men will find things to do without the gals.....don't be petty and selfish at a time when your gal pal has limited time...get a calendar and plan the days and maybe one with the guys where they foot the bill......Christmas may happen on one day of the year..but the celebration is in the heart everyday....Merry Christmas
2006-12-25 04:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you need to tell the husband that it is an all girl outing and unless he has a gender reassignment opp. he can go some other time.Best of luck .
2006-12-25 04:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by moonflower 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that its a "bonding of females only" and she needs to tell her hubbie to stay home. Its about her isn't it? Make it CLEAR!
2006-12-25 05:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by itsme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋