My best friend (43-years old) who has been acting very strangely today (unlike her normal cheerful and encouraging self) insulted me today by joking: "I am going to be like YOU: an alcoholic, pill popping drug addict who also does crack." I (23-years old) quickly took offense because (a) I don't abuse prescription pills anymore, (b) I am not addicted to cocaine or even marijuana, and (c) I am a recovering alcoholic. I has been drug free for 20 months, has not popped a pill for 7 months, and don't get drunk nearly as much as I used to. Ironically, my best friend forced me to break those habits. I think, in part, the fact that her anniversary was yesterday and her husband left her for a younger women plays a part. Another factor perhaps is financially she could not afford a Christmas and she resents the fact that I spent thousands in cash (but I saved it and went without throughout the year) for Christmas; thus, she is resentful. I really don't know. What do you think? Thanks....
2006-12-24 17:29:01 · 12 answers · asked by Maria Gallercia 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, I think that you too can sort it out since both of you are best friends. Like you said, she is having a very bad time right now, with losing her husband and everything. Like a best friend you can help her with her feelings. She might have not meant it, because she is angry about her trails. Her anger was talking. Since you are doing better then her, she might have envy in her, and just didn't know what she was saying. You might need to help her in her trials and just control your emotions.
Or you can either fight it out and see what happens to that. It's your choice.
And by the way I am happy that you are 20 months drug free, addiction is a tramendous thing to over come. Congratulations.
2006-12-24 18:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by Dottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think may be her husband left her there4 she said this 2 u. She didn't insult u. Actually may b she want 2 say dat she don't want 2 get in bad habits just becoz her husband left her or may b she is consoling herself dat whatever happens she won't get addicted 2 bad habits. Talk 2 her n console her dat everything is going 2 b alrite. N u r always wid her no matter wat happens. May b she don't want 2 break into tears. But 2 get out of this situation she needs 2 cry n need u(her best frend). If she cries don't stop her n wen she stops then console her. Ok.
2006-12-24 17:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time. Do not take her comments to your heart. Some times awkward things like this happen in a relationship. Your friend helped you a lot and now its your time to pay back the gratitude. In times that she needs you the most, you should not give importance to these feelings and inner voices.
Concentrate on the positive side of your friend and the good things that she did to you, eventually you will realise what your next course of action should be.
we are gifted with the intelligence to appreciate and reciprocrate and i would value it if i were you.
2006-12-24 17:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tis the season. I think you are right. This is not going to be a nice warm Christmas for her and she needs to reach out and touch someone, specifically her ex. Since he was not around, you had to suffer the slings and arrows. Sometimes that is just the cross we have to bear for our friends while we help them go through tough times.
You are a good friend and you have good merits. I am sure she is very proud of your efforts, and somewhat disappointed in herself.. If she can't match your level then she tries to drag you down to hers. Blow it off, and see if it gets better. The true measure of a friend is one that will stick with you through the rough times also,
2006-12-24 17:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to deal with her insults. Friends don't insult friends like that especially if you have come to change your life from the 'worst' to the 'better'. If she keeps on insulting you with harsh words, then you need to let her know how you feel. Sometimes people treat people badly because they have a problem themselves but take it on others for their own satisfaction. Her problem is not with you, her problem is with her husband..she seems insecure....so she takes it out on you. Like I said, friends don't treat friends like that, they respect one another. It will probably be best to talk to her, because she probably needs it, due to her own problems..anotherwards, those are signs of "Help Me". So help her by being there for her due to her loss of her husband, just liked she was there for you. If after you have talked to her about how you feel and if she still treats you the same, then you need to stay away from her because that will cause more friction between you two. You need to start thinking of yourself, because you are starting a new life with your 'new self'. And, until she fixes her problems as well.
But until she apologizes to you of how she has treated you, then move on with your own life. You have come a long way not to live life to its fullest! (smile)
2006-12-24 17:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably right. Jealously is ugly. Let it go by, but if the friend isn't nicer soon, find another best friend.
2006-12-24 18:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by takemeawayasfarasyoucan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whooooop that bitches ***... Dont b dumb. Would a friend let a friend drive drunk?.............YES. u should b able to smoke crack if u wont to.. pills **** as long *** shes not paying..... do what ever the *** u wont. NOW THATS SOME REAL ****
2006-12-24 17:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by hardie_christine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a good friend wouldnt say hurtfull things like that get rid of her!
2006-12-24 19:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a jerk drop her or stick around her for at least a week see what happens
2006-12-25 03:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by Queen of Boredom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just slowly talk with ur friend.
2006-12-24 17:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by gigi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋