this girl and i were best friends like senior year of high school. i didnt really have any other really good friends before that and during that, so i stuck with it. even then, i knew we had opposite personalities. im like a quiet, not wild type, and she's like the loud, party type. we had things in common though and we did have some fun times. but she was kinda bossy, involved me in her friend drama, and a few months ago, i was fed up and just stopped talking to her. then recently she just emails me and said she wants to be friends again. im iffy about it. i believe in giving people second chances, but i dont know if she'll really change for me. i cant see us as best friends again, but i can see us talking on occasion. is there anything weird about being friends with her, but just not talking or hanging out as much as we used to? would it be weird if i verbally said this to her? i mean i do want to talk to her since we didnt have closure & it couldnt hurt to meet up and talk with her
2006-12-24 17:24:37 · 7 answers · asked by cfab 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have a friend who is the complete opposite of me, and she's gone down a road lately, that I do not intend to follow and protect her from. She used to be my best friend, but we rarely talk now. I do still consider her a friend, and I would be there for her if she called, needed someone to talk to.
But as for now, we definitely do not have the same level of friendship we used to have.
2006-12-24 17:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email her back and tell her you would consider it if the unresolved issues between you were discussed. If she cant do that then say no. If shes willing then explain to her why you ended the friendship and that you cant deal with that kind of thing.Dont do it in a blaming way though more like how your personalities are different and that you just dont want her to have expectations of you that you cannot uphold. If she is willing to talk about all this maturely you might give the friendship a shot.
Then if anything comes up with her you cant handle let her know right away so it doesnt escalate.
2006-12-25 01:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you have the right idea on things. Always be honest and up front with people. She should understand and respect your view point. No one says you have to be best friends and like you stated, you do not want that. Make it clear you want talking on occasions only. Nothing is weird where honesty is concerned.
2006-12-25 01:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question..." I was fed up...."
If you don't like her...(except in an -Ok- way) then tell her, it's not like you're engaged to be married or even boyfriend/girlfriend.
Just say....I have other things in my life to deal with and I'm thinking maybe it's better that we don't see each other as often.
You're a great person...maybe we can meet up once-in-awhile for coffee/tea/drinks and talk...see you later...
You don't have to be rude, just direct and honest. If she doesn't like it, then she has a problem...(not you...)
2006-12-25 01:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her second chance n talk 2 her freely. N even if she don't change then move on.
2006-12-25 01:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU REALLY BELIEVE IN SECOND CHANCE THEN IT WON'T HURT TO TALK TO HER. BUT WHEN YOU TALK TO HER , MAKE EVERY THING CLEAR. THAT WHAT YOU DID NOT LIKE AND WHAT KIND OF RELATION SHIP YOU WANT. BECAUSE EVERY ONE DESERVE THE TRUTH. IT NICE TO HEAR THAT YOU THINK ABOUT HER FEELINGS TOO.
2006-12-25 01:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes..........
2006-12-25 01:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by gigi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋