lent some money to a "friend"...?

Question

i lent money to a friend at the job. she said her mother's lights were gonna get cut off if her mother didn't pay the bill.

her mother told her to ask me for the money. i felt sorry for her mother so i gave the money to my friend so she could give it to her mom. she said i would get it back on the 22nd (payday).
-When that day came and i didnt receive the money. i ask my friend what happened. She said she couldnt get it from her mom, they are having a fight.
-on the 23 i asked about it again. She still didnt have it. My friend said she will ask her boyfriend for some money to pay me back instead.
-i am starting to see signs of her avoiding me because we usually eat lunch together, but fpr the past two days we didnt. And we usually take the bus together, but today we didn't. i feel a little upset and used.
-I have a feeling that she lied about the whole situation.
-now i dont even know WHEN and IF i am gonna get my $60 back.

i told my bf about the situation he said i should TAKE the $60 from her when she gets paid again OR fight her

Answer 1

dont lend friends money! I would not ask her again she knows she owes you I would not say **** else to her.

Answer 2

The first thing to realize is that you only know that your friend asked for the money and you gave. As for the rest of it, who needed how much for what, it doesn't matter.

If it were me, I would not mention it again.

The fact is, you should only ever loan money that you can afford to lose. Right before Christmas, this is a tough experience to have happen. There are a lot of needy people in the world who are quite willing to take whatever you will give them or "loan" them.

No decent person would have done this to you.

Since it is on the job, you could perhaps take it up with a supervisor if you wanted to pursue it.

If it were me, I would not mention it again. Whatever you do. Don't loan her anymore money until this is paid back. Don't make any threats to her about it. If she has anything good in her, she will pay you back.

If it is obvious you are not going to get it back, you could say that you had a use for the money and would like it back, but you are happy that you could spare it for someone needy.

People who are willing to get money in this way will steal from you because they think you have plenty and you don't need the money. It is very warped thinking. I am sorry it happened to you, because you were trying to help someone. And you were lied to.

Answer 3

Things like this happen. But what you have to think about is whether the 60 dollars are important enough to lose a friendship over. Stick with you the age old saying, "You don't lend to friends, you give to them." If you know your friend's mother, you could always ask her. But my suggestion is, tell your friend not to worry about it. A good friend will do their best to pay you back. Money is always an iffy situation between friends. My rule is, if a friend asks to borrow money, and I can afford to lose it, then I give it to them. If they pay me back, cool. If they don't, then, I hope it helped. If I ever needed money, I'd ask them. If they give me some excuse that they can't afford it or they refuse, then I'd think twice before giving them anything else. It sucks, but, the best advice I can give you is to think about what's more important. Your friend, or your money. In the future, just think a little harder before you give up your hard earned cash so freely. Regardless of how good a heart you have, there are people out there who will take advantage of you.

Answer 4

Yes they do. It is federal law that says they must have a set amount on hand for every dollar they lend out. Its been a while since I last looked at the statistics but I believe it is 20 to 1. You can loan out 20 dollars for every dollar you have on deposit. Don't quote me on that though, like I said it has been a while. Yes it is quite a racket. So what would it take for you to become your "own bank"? Hmmmmm. Gets you thinking doesn't it? We see much the same thing happening in business. We take raw materials and add labor and some skill, and sell a finished product to some one at a price that is much higher than the cost of the parts and labor. Sort of like MAKING money. The bank creats wealth by writing loans, and a factory creats wealth by building something and charging more for it than the cost of parts and labor. Hmmmm now even more to think about.

Answer 5

Don't even worry about this, this person is a work friend not a long time friend. She may have lied and may have not, but i find this hard to believe you both work at the same place. (work) and at the end of the week you get paid. So could she not have paid her own mothers bill. ????? Or is she going down the same road as her mother. Next time just say no I'm sorry but i have my own bills to pay.

Answer 6

Oh man it's hard to say what to do in this situation. You know what, if she constantly avoids you or straight out refuses to give you back your money, collect some things from her, obviously without her knowledge, and pawn them until you get your money back. Now whenever someone asks you for money you're broke or you only have enough to pay your bills. Don;t lend it you'll be sorry.

Answer 7

#1 rule- never lend money to friends or family.

Do you know her mother's phone #? look it up and call her or better yet- confront your friend and ASK for her phone number - if she does the him and haw dance- confront her with the lie and then tell her you really dont want to lose a friendship over money and if she doesnt either, she has until......whatever date you give her to pay her back otherwise you will never speak to her again and tell everyone you work with about what she did so she cant do that to them---- that should get your money back fast- but you may lose a friend, who at this point, isn't a friend but a user and a liar.

Answer 8

Unfortunately you had to learn the hard way that you should never lend money to a friend. It almost always ends like this and ruins the friendship.

Answer 9

You learned a $60 lesson, learn from your mistake.

Answer 10

don't give money to a fren and especially for fren's relatives. don't give money to a "friend". just give it to ur close fren and that is only if they really really really need it. and not a big amount. anyways, hope u get ur money back soon. goodluck. happy holidays