some one please halp me?

Question

i think that my girl frend that ive been with for 5 years is cheating on me what can i do to find out if she is or isent?

Answer 1

Watch the way she acks around you if she pushes you away allot, tells you she has to go, dosen't want to spend time with you, wearing her hair diffrent or diffrent style of clothes or new perfume, if she just dosen't seem interested in you anymore period then yes she might be cheating on you or you need to change something in your relationship because she's wanting to move on to something diffrent not nessasarily a guy just something diffrent that you can or should do to spice up the relationship between the two of you. Also just ask her, tell her how your feeling and go from there for all good relationships are built on honesty and good communication. Good luck

Answer 2

There is a thing ALL people do when they doing something like cheat or steal or committ a crime. You can use this to help you find out.

If she’s cheating and not telling you, there is something you can do to get a real strong clue about it or even cause her to fess up. I’ll give you an example and then say why things work this way. But be warned, playing with the mind can bring people to do extreme things so be gentle with her.

First, we look at the 3 things that occur in order. (1) A person does something harmful to another, i.e. cheating on you. (2) Then the person doesn’t tell the person that's harmed by it, i.e. she ain’t telling you. (3) Then you will inevitably do something that makes the person wonder if you know about it. #3 is what we're going to use.

Don’t ask her where she’s been or what’s she’s been doing. Here's the example of some INNOCENT things you can say when you think she’s been out and about cheating. "Today would have been a nice day for us to do something cool, oh well, next time." "There's been a weird vibe in the air today. You feel it?" "You look a little different to me somehow, I can't put my finger on it - ah, forget I said that, I think my vision is going or something."

People who are HIDING a harmful thing against you like cheating get a little distant or even crazy when you do something that makes them feel you MIGHT know about it. They start to wonder and this wondering can drive them nuts. “Does he know? What did he mean by that? Why did he say that? Is he onto me? Does he have no clue?"

This is a truth in life. You want to make her wonder if you know about her secret while pretending you have no clue. By doing so, if she’s up to no good, she will eventually become distant and critical of you. She may voice the criticism directly at you or maybe to others like her friends. Either way you will notice something isn't normal.

Don't ask what she did or where she was, instead ask some INNOCENT question or make some INNOCENT comment. Observe how she acts towards you the next or a few days after. Again, don’t push too hard, people can get crazy and desperate with such things and you don’t want bad things to happen. Use this as a weapon and it will come back to get you, instead use it gently only to gather information.

Answer 3

Listen to your inner heart and your guts. If the answer is yes then she probably is but do Weigh the chances of being wrong too. If you feel that she cannot be trusted then i suggest that you move on. By trying too hard to investigate you will end up hurting yourself more. Everything in life happens for a reason.

Answer 4

Your girlfriend has the 5-year itch. She's getting bored and wants to see what is out there. Ask her where she is going and what she is doing. If you've been with her for 5 years you probably can tell if she is telling you the truth.
Deep down inside you already know the answer.

Maybe it is time for you to move on?

Answer 5

First I will Halp you by telling you that it's "help" not halp.
Second, I'll tell you to go to a private investigator if your so insecure.
Thrid I'll tell you you should just ask her flat out and see what her reaction is before doing the above.

Answer 6

Has she ever accused U of cheating on her? Sometimes the one that is doing wrong will accuse the other in order to take the attention away from them.

Answer 7

hire a private detective to follow her around for a couple weeks. Or check her cell phone record of calls.

Answer 8

if your not sure dont make accusations...trust is supposely what keeps your relationship alive....there are concers that have raised this question...talk to her, ask her questions that make you feel this way and then listen, listen to her answers, the truth will be reveled to you...listening is more important than accusing...good luck

Answer 9

whether she is or isn't...the fact that you dont trust her is a problem. if she is not trust worthy then you shouldnt be with her. if you are overly paranoid then she shouldnt be with you....trust is key in relationships...without it there is no point in staying together